Post # 1
i was planning on doing a money dance but i keep hearing and reading that its tacky, will my wedding be tacky if i do it? im not asking people for money but its a good way to dance with pretty much all my guest. if you are doing/ done the money dance what songs are good to do it to?
Post # 3
No, your wedding isn’t tacky if you do it.
Is it my taste? Nope.
Will you offend your guests? Probably not, and who cares anyway?
If you’re not asking for money, why are you calling it a money dance? Maybe you could change it to a ‘donation dance’ and give the money to an animal rescue or something else.
Post # 4
If the money dance is very common in your social and family circles, I don’t think there’s anything offensive about it.
Also, if it’s very common, many people will expect it and will want to use the dance as a chance to give you a wedding gift.
Post # 5
I agree, if it feels right for you then go for it!
Post # 6
I am 50% Slovak, 25% Croatian, and 25% Polish. If I DIDN’T do a money dance, people would be offended.
It’s a really big culture thing. Part of the Slovak money dance tradition is for the mother of the bride to make bows out of bills and put them in the bride’s hair.
I’ve never been to a wedding where they didn’t do the dollar dance and it’s only been recently that I heard that people are “offended” by it or think it’s tacky.
The concept of the dollar dance is to give every guest a chance to dance with the bride (and sometimes groom). Typically a bridesmaid holds a little bag open at the beginning of the line for guests to drop a few bills in and take a shot of liquor — IF THEY WANT. It’s not like you’re going to be refused a dance if you don’t give a dollar or take a shot. Whoever wants to dance with the couple, can. The money bag is just one more opportunity for loved ones to help the new couple out financially.
I do not see any harm in it whatsoever and cannot understand why anyone thinks it’s tacky. As a Slovak/Polish/Croatian girl, I can honestly say I’M offended by people who think this is tacky.
I say a big GO FOR IT if you really want to do it! It’s fun!
Post # 7
We did it. It was really nice, I got to dance with a bunch of different people and got pictures with a lot of people I wouldn’t have otherwise (plus we got some extra cash to take with us on the honeymoon). These were our songs: “With a little help from my friends” Joe Cocker, “Moneymaker” Rilo Kiley, “Money (that’s what I want” Flying Lizards, “Can’t Buy Me Love” the Beatles, “Anything Anything” Dramarama
Post # 8
I think it really depends on your circle. If I did it, it would be really offensive and rude, but that’s just because people don’t do it in my circle. In fact, I never even heard of it until I joined the Bee! If your circle is okay with it, though, I don’t think it’s wrong, persay. It’s not my taste at all, and if I were a guest at a wedding that did it, I would be uncomfortable.
Post # 9
Go for it its not tacky at all. I find youtube great for finding songs.
Post # 10
Every wedding I have ever been to has done a dollar dance. I don’t believe it is tacky at all! 🙂
Post # 11
Some may thing it’s tacky, but that is just THEIR opinion. Where I come from, it is at every wedding and is a time where guests can spend a little time with the bride and groom, say some words and grab pictures. I will be doing it! But it also is very common here and not “frowned upon”
Post # 12
If it’s common, do it, but if people will be confused or turned off by it, don’t.
Post # 13
It’s not something that we considered but I know people who did it and loved it. Dollar dances are tradition in a lot of cultures and circles. If its something your guests will be used to and not offended by then go for it.
Post # 14
I’ve only been to one wedding that did it and I was really turned off by it. I won’t be doing it and, yes, I do find it tacky. I didn’t particpate in the one I had been at and it became lewd quickly.
Post # 15
I think it just depends on your social circle. I’d never heard of it, so to me it seems a bit odd to openly ask for money, but I’m sure it has cultural traditions that I just don’t know about. FI says peope he knows always do that, and he thought it was weird that I thought it was weird!
Post # 16
I agree it definitely depends on your circle. I’ve never been to a wedding where they DIDN’T do it it, so I never even thought about it being tacky until I joined the bee.
If it’s normal for your area, then go for it!