Post # 1
My FI and I already live together and don’t really need all the things most newlyweds register for. My question is, has anyone thought or done an account for guests to donate money for the honeymoon? I’m looking for something reliable and have thought about paypal, but does that sound cheesy?
Post # 3
You can set up a honeymoon registry, although these are sometimes frowned upon. Or you can have your parents spread the word that you don’t need anything but are saving for your honeymoon.
Setting up a paypal account and directing your guests there seems not cheesy but rude.
Post # 4
I wouldnt go as far as setting up a paypal account. Like pp said you can get an actual honeymoon registry. I personally never pay money into a honeymoon registry though, As a guest I feel its not my place to help pay for their honeymoon
Post # 5
I agree with PP’s, but others are more than OK with honeymoon registries. You would know your family and circle of friends best though.
Have you thought about other non-traditional items. Amazon allows you to register for all sorts of stuff from BBQ’s, camping equipment, garden and lawn stuff, tools and home improvement stuff.
Other upgrades might be useful for you, like better sheets, towels, maybe even other house stuff like fans, air purifiers, furniture, pillows (bed and decorative)
We had a whole house as well, but there was still some kitchen appliances I wanted, or things to upgrade (better bathroom set). We also registered for other stuff like patio furniture, less fun stuff like good food storage sets (like tupperware as well as larger ones for flour etc)
Post # 6
We have a registry on honeyfund.com, it was very simple to set up and the $$ goes directly in to my account so no running around to the bank or stores. We also have traditional registries for this traditional guests but most guests have commented on how great of an idea the HM registry.
Post # 7
I’m doing this with http://www.myregistry.com! It goes through paypal but is a much classier way to set it up (but it’s great because I already understand paypal and love using it!). MyRegistry is great because you can register for your honeymoon as well as items from any store in the world… I know certain guests won’t want to give money, so I’ve created a small registry along with my honeymoon fund and it all appears together.
Good luck! Where are you going on your honeymoon? We’re thinking about Italy or Greece! 🙂
Post # 8
We did a Honeyfund.com registry. I think you should really go the registry route. It helps the people who get all cranky towards people who are already established as a couple and don’t need “stuff” feel like you aren’t breaking as many rules. Not that I agree with the cranky people – it seems like some people can’t deal with the fact that it’s 2011 and the needs/wants of couples aren’t in line with ancient Emily Post rules!
Post # 9
Thanks so much for the info! I have been looking online at both honeyfund and myregistery. I will probably need to sit down with the FI and discuss which to choose. My MIL is very old-fashioned and having a hard time with this, but the last thing we need is more things we already own. We are both 30 and pretty established, but after the wedding won’t have the funds for a honeymoon. I figured why not? We won’t be taking our honeymoon until 6 monthes after the wedding…hopefully something mediterranean!!!!
Thanks again for the help!
Post # 10
You’re going to have people who think it’s a great idea and those who don’t. My mom hates the idea of it but my FMIL thinks it’s the greatest idea ever (I’m one of, what seems like, the lucky few who love her FMIL, get along with her better than my mom actually 🙂 ).
My philosophy is that, knowing the guests at our wedding, people will be getting us gifts no matter what, so it might as well be something we really want. I’m using honeyfund.com.
Post # 11
I agree that just straight paypal might possibly be viewed by guests as just asking for cash than a honeymoon registry. We set up a honeyfund and while it has the same effect (i.e. receiving cash), I have found that our guests are really excited about the idea of “buying” us a wine tasting, or other fun excursions.
I also am using myregistry.com but only for our “traditional” registry, mostly because I thought Honeyfund was easier to use and they don’t charge a fee like myregistry does for their cash gifts option.