Post # 1
So I’ve printed up my invites and here is what it says under the info section about gifts:
We are not making a gift registry. However, if you’d like to give a gift, we will have a box for donations to go toward our honeymoon!
I’m curious about what people think about this (wording, ettiquette, etc.). I’m probably not going to change it since I’ve already printed them all up, but I’m nervous about what sort of reception the invites will have. We just don’t need anything. We live in a very small apartment and couldn’t fit in any more stuff anyway. I’m also not expecting any gifts at any sort of shower.. I may not have a shower.
Anyway, whaddya think???
Post # 3
@missbluesky: I wouldn’t care one way or the other bc I always gift cash but be warned that this is a very controversial topic here. Don’t be surprised when/if this thread blows up.
Post # 4
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
I’d think it was a little tacky but not be clutching my pearls in horror. But I’m going to predict that you get a lot of pearl-clutching from bees here, and your real life guests. (Mentioning gifts on an invite is bad etiquette, let alone a direct request for money. Obviously it would somewhat depend on your crowd though.)
Post # 5
You shouldn’t be referring to gifts at all on your invitations. To be perfectly honest, I think your wording is pretty bad because by referring to a box for “donations” you are really emphasizing the physical transaction of money between yourself and your guests.
Post # 6
@missbluesky: Hi. I think your wording is perfect.
I found some advice on how to handle asking for money, so it seems like a lot of couples are doing this now.
Ways to Ask for Money as a Wedding Gift
Post # 7
I don’t see anything wrong with wanting cash in lieu of gifts. I do have a wedding registry, but if I were to be honest- FH and I would prefer money for new furniture, that is too expensive to request on a registry. I say kudos to you. If people get nasty with you over this subject, ignore them, it’s not their wedding!
Post # 8
@missbluesky: I wouldn’t worry about it. It might not be a traditional thing to do, but everyone isn’t traditional with their weddings these days.
Post # 9
I personally think it’s in poor taste to mention gifts at all, and asking for money is worse. Sorry.
Post # 10
I think there are a plethora of threads pertaining to this topic that you could have utilized the search bar to find and saved yourself what I predict is an incoming flaming.
Alluding to gifts at all on an invite is not good, asking for money is worse, and unless your honeymoon is a registered charity referring to monetary gifts as a donation is even worse to my mind. For me it’s that one word that would land you a much smaller gift than I’d usually give.
Personally, I think leave all mention off all together and tell people verbally if they ask you what you’d like or have your family/bridal party spread via word of mouth.
Post # 11
I think it’s very rude. Asking for money is inappropriate in all circumstances, and very much so at a wedding. I would definitely find it tacky on an invitation and would probably reconsider the amount of a gift I typically give.
Post # 12
@missbluesky: Shut.this.thread.down.girl. lol It might get ugly.
I personally wouldn’t care as a guest. If the couple wanted money then I’m happy to give them just money. I would rather be told.
Post # 13
There is no nice way to ask your guests to give you cash and mentioning gifts in an invite is rude.
Post # 14
Tacky tacky tacky. Never ask for money. When people ask you/your family where you’re registered and you say you’re not, they’ll get the hint.
Post # 15
Hmm, so traditionally it might be seen as a bit gauche, BUT… I’m a practical gifter. I want to get something you need and will use, and if that is honeymoon cash, hey that makes it much easier on me… all I have to do is find a card instead of combing your registries for that perfect gift that is in my price range for you and doesn’t feel like a dud of a gift.
It may have been better to build a wedding website and have that mentioned there instead of on the invite, but I think there are going to be sticklers and there are going to be people that don’t care either way.
I don’t think it was a problem for you to start this new thread, because you were asking on specific wording.
Post # 16
I don’t think gifts should be mentioned. If people need help finding a suitable gift, they’ll ask those closest to the bride or groom for help or registry info.