- 5 years ago
- Wedding: April 2018
A follow up to my Money Matters Post…if you wanna catch up:
I resolved to wait until Valentine’s Day to see how I felt, how things went and re-evaluate.
Valentine’s Day came and went, no money, no phone calls, nothing…
I was blissfully indifferent about it all, until I noticed that my greyhound wasn’t eating…so, I took him to the vet and was told that he would likely need a large number of teeth pulled, since he’s older and greyhounds are notorious for rotting teeth…the quote they provided was $938 without any extractions!!!!!
I almost died! I love my dog, intensely and without limit, there isn’t anything I wouldn’t do for him, so I started to pull the money together and thought to myself, “What the hell?” I texted them and asked, is there any way you might be able to pay me some of the money? He replies, Once we get our taxes back, we’ll pay you in full. I reply, Ok, well…I need it for Cairo, he’s in pain and I’m stuck.
No reply after after that…which I thought was REALLY lame.
So, with everything going on for Mr. 99 and I, who is out of work at the moment due to an extensive shoulder reconstruction, I realize that there’s no way I can spend this much $$ and feel good about it. Lucky for me, a co-worker recommended a fabulous low cost clinic and we got my prince sorted in short order for one tenth of the estimate my other vet provided….so he’s fine, he’s great and his breath no longer smells like a porta-potty.
I, on the other hand, am not. I can understand using tax money to repay, and that takes a minute to get that, what I do not understand, is that they couldn’t be bothered to show some concern or compassion for me and my little family…no, “I’m sorry that Cairo is hurting.” “I hope everything works out ok.” “We filed two weeks ago, so we’re looking at another two or three for the return.” NOTHING…just, we’ll get it to you later…then silence.
The day we took him to the clinic, there was a foot and a half of snow on the ground AND I was a complete mess….anyone that knows me, knows that Cairo and I are one unit, where I go, he follows, when I curl up to nap, he’s curled up behind my legs, I know what every squeak, glance, sigh and stretch means and we’re just, eerily close….so, as my sister, and someone that you know and love, wouldn’t you check up on that? Apparently NOT!
I guess it doesn’t really matter anymore, it’s March, I’m not going to see a dime of that money, EVER. I’m terribly hurt, I feel taken for granted and I’m totally disinterested in continuing to invest in a relationship that emotinally bankrupts me, without fail or cessation.
I was talking to Mr. 99 this morning in the shower….that’s where we talk about our day, check in and wash each other’s back…literally….and we decided that we’re done…not angry, upset, hurt or anything like that….just done. And we’re not interested in being part of the wedding, since we feel that it would be really stressful for everyone, and totally disingenuous when you look at how badly things have deteriorated….AND we made a promise to each other, at 12:01am on January 1, 2013, that we were going to make choices that move us away from negativity and toward enriching fullfilling lives…we’ve been through too much to let things like this, drag us down.
How would you even approach this…?