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  • poll: Who is paying for YOUR wedding????
    Bride and Groom : (26 votes)
    34 %
    Brides Parents : (16 votes)
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    Grooms Parents : (0 votes)
    Bride Groom and one set of Parents : (19 votes)
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    Bride Groom and both sets of Parents : (16 votes)
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    elysemichelle    April 9, 2010   NJ

    i was just wondering how many of you are paying for your wedding?? me and my fiance are basically footing 95% of the bill (mostly my fiance since I am unemployed right now). My parents gave us the ultimatum of school loan or wedding so only small portion is coming from them. and his parents are putting a small amount that we are going to use for the rehearsal dinner. so what is your situation?? and where are you from? I was just wondering if things are different, in different places... THANKS!

     
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    ProudPeacockBride    August 13, 2011   Washington

    We're paying for our wedding ourselves. My folks are retired and are on a fixed income, and my in-laws are divorced and struggling financially. Plus we want to have the wedding OUR way, and feel that if many people start paying, they may want a say in things. No biggie! Of course our wedding budget is only about $3,500 so far!

     
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    Erin_E    June 6, 2010   South Jersey

    His parents are paying for the flowers, and my mom is paying for my dress.  My fiance and I are paying for everything else. 

     
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    cardigan    January 7, 2011   Austin, TX

    We're all pitching in at least somewhere. My parents are paying for most of it, but FI and I are paying for photography (and will probably pay for a few other things along the way) and his parents will be paying for the rehearsal dinner and possibly the bar (fingers crossed, haha), so we're all doing a little something to help out!

     
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    mhirni    September 12, 2009   Oakland, CA

    My parents were very generous and ended up giving us about 50% of the money for our wedding.  Granted our wedding wasn't super elaborate, but it was such a huge help to have that!  His parents are overseas, so they couldn't really help financially (exchange rate, etc) but they paid for some of our travel expenses during our honeymoon (we went to his home country).  It was awesome!

     
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    moderndaisy    June 2010  

    My parents are footing the entire wedding bill - his are paying for the rehearsal dinner. I am being completely honest when I say that even though FI and I are very well off financially, if we had to foot the bill it would be a courthouse wedding followed by a nice steakhouse dinner with us and our parents, not even siblings. The only other thing we would pay for is a decent photographer.

     
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    BrianneG    June 5, 2010   Redondo Beach, CA

    His parents offered us a little money ($1 to 2 thousand) but now his dad is on disability waiting for a knee replacement, so I'm not sure if we'll get anything from them. We moved our wedding to Saturday from Friday because his mom made a stink and said Friday was too inconvenient. They were basically going to pick up the cost difference, but that's not likely now.

     
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    BrianneG    June 5, 2010   Redondo Beach, CA

    Also, my aunt and uncle are paying for my family to fly from Ohio to Los Angeles, which is super nice of them. It's 11 airfares so not exactly cheap.

     
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    hilsy85    September 2010  

    My parents are paying for the reception and my dress. My FI's parents are paying for the florist, photographer, and band. We're paying for invitations, favors, rings, my veil/shoes, honeymoon, officiant. We definitely feel very lucky to have both our parents contribute so generously. Oh, and I'm in NYC! :)

    I kind of wish we were financing the whole thing ourselves like you are, mostly because then you get to decide everything! I have definitely had to bend to my parents' opinion on things, and I hate feeling like my FI and I don't have total say over the wedding. Oh well...

     
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    naangel55    June 20, 2009   Long Beach, CA

    I chose Brides Parents but it was both our parents.  Mine paid for the majority of the wedding, while his parents paid for the alcohol at the wedding, the rehearsal dinner and the day after brunch.

     
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    katiebug    July 31, 2010  

    My parents are paying for a substantial portion of the wedding day, although since his family has twice as many guests as either my family or my FI and I, they are paying for the extra meal cost associated with their longer guest list.  In addition, his parents are paying for the flowers and the rehearsal dinner.  We are paying for our attire (I paid for my dress, he is buying a tux), our rings, gifts for our attendants, the band and photography. It's not a tidy split and i think is coming close to 1/3, 1/3, 1/3 but it's working for us.  Geographically, we are in the south but our families are from all over (I'm from the west coast, his family is from the midwest).

     
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    mmm31911    May 14, 2011  

    My parents gave us a 10K budget which I am ever so thankful for! Anything exceding that we pay for although I am hoping to make it work (not including the honeymoon). His parents are paying for the rehearsal dinner. :)

     
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    His Barista    September 4, 2010   Spokane, WA

    We're paying for the wedding, but FI's parents are gifting us with the reception dinner. = D

     
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    artbee    February 28, 2010  

    my parents are paying for most of it, but his parents are paying for the rd and alcohol.

     
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    twalila    May 2010   Ohio

    FI and I are paying for everything ourselves.  We're both in our late 20s, and I felt silly asking my parents foot anything for our wedding.  I'm a big girl now.

    We both also have fairly "opinionated" families, so having the whole "my money/my decision" thing on our side helps. 

     

     
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    Dancy905    February 5, 2010  

    We're paying for pretty much everything ourselves. We had a lot of problems with our parents adding people to the guest list that neither FI or I would ever consider, so the parents are covering these people who are really our parents' guests.

    I'm sure both sides will contribute something but nothing's been offered yet so as of right now I'm not planning on it.

     
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    JamaicaBride    May 14, 2011   Charlotte, NC

    Both FI and I were born and raised in SC. He is paying for our entire wedding/honeymoon.

     
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    We're probably going to end up paying for everything on our own, unless his parents want to gift us something. The only good thing about paying yourselves is total control.....

    My parents won't be able to contribute financially as they are disabled/retired but I hope my mom can really help me with time.

     
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    Miss Puppy Love    June 11, 2011   St. Louis, MO

    I feel very blessed to have parents who are footing 90% of the budget. My FI and I will foot about 5% and his parents will foot the remaining 5%. When I was high school, my parents would use motivating factors like "we'll pay for your wedding" to encourage me to get a good (full ride) academic scholarship into college (which we are both currently in). Regardless, I praise God for having a family who is able to help offset these costs in such hard economic times.

    I wish everyone good luck, and here's to some beautiful weddings!

     
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    daydreamwanderer       DC

    My parents unexpectedly offered us more than we expected - it's still a small budget, but whenever I start getting down on it, I remember that it's almost double what I originally thought I'd be working with. Helps keep all of the "OMG I NEED CHIAVARI CHAIRS" moments in check :)

    (ps - I price checked the pretties [chairs] and decided againstgave up on them when I realized they would eat up like 37% of our budget. hah!)

     
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    Serya    October 7, 2011   Frederick, MD

    My guy and I are planning on paying for everything - if it ends up that the parents want to help that'll be fine but we're not counting on it. While being on this tight of a budget is a challenge it's definately a worthwhile one - we've definately had to focus on what's the most important to us!

     
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    realeastcoaster    July 11, 2009   Canada

    My parents paid for my dress, and some last minute odds and ends (sand for centerpieces, etc.), and his father paid for the rehearsal BBQ. We paid for everything else ourselves. 

     
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    laural    September 24, 2011   Louisiana

    My parents are paying for the wedding and reception and his mom is handling the rehearsal dinner. I am not sure if his dad has realized that we are going to get married.

     

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