Post # 1
i was just wondering how many of you are paying for your wedding?? me and my fiance are basically footing 95% of the bill (mostly my fiance since I am unemployed right now). My parents gave us the ultimatum of school loan or wedding so only small portion is coming from them. and his parents are putting a small amount that we are going to use for the rehearsal dinner. so what is your situation?? and where are you from? I was just wondering if things are different, in different places… THANKS!
Post # 3
We’re paying for our wedding ourselves. My folks are retired and are on a fixed income, and my in-laws are divorced and struggling financially. Plus we want to have the wedding OUR way, and feel that if many people start paying, they may want a say in things. No biggie! Of course our wedding budget is only about $3,500 so far!
Post # 4
His parents are paying for the flowers, and my mom is paying for my dress. My fiance and I are paying for everything else.
Post # 5
- Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas
We’re all pitching in at least somewhere. My parents are paying for most of it, but FI and I are paying for photography (and will probably pay for a few other things along the way) and his parents will be paying for the rehearsal dinner and possibly the bar (fingers crossed, haha), so we’re all doing a little something to help out!
Post # 6
My parents were very generous and ended up giving us about 50% of the money for our wedding. Granted our wedding wasn’t super elaborate, but it was such a huge help to have that! His parents are overseas, so they couldn’t really help financially (exchange rate, etc) but they paid for some of our travel expenses during our honeymoon (we went to his home country). It was awesome!
Post # 7
My parents are footing the entire wedding bill – his are paying for the rehearsal dinner. I am being completely honest when I say that even though FI and I are very well off financially, if we had to foot the bill it would be a courthouse wedding followed by a nice steakhouse dinner with us and our parents, not even siblings. The only other thing we would pay for is a decent photographer.
Post # 8
His parents offered us a little money ($1 to 2 thousand) but now his dad is on disability waiting for a knee replacement, so I’m not sure if we’ll get anything from them. We moved our wedding to Saturday from Friday because his mom made a stink and said Friday was too inconvenient. They were basically going to pick up the cost difference, but that’s not likely now.
Post # 9
Also, my aunt and uncle are paying for my family to fly from Ohio to Los Angeles, which is super nice of them. It’s 11 airfares so not exactly cheap.
Post # 10
My parents are paying for the reception and my dress. My FI’s parents are paying for the florist, photographer, and band. We’re paying for invitations, favors, rings, my veil/shoes, honeymoon, officiant. We definitely feel very lucky to have both our parents contribute so generously. Oh, and I’m in NYC! 🙂
I kind of wish we were financing the whole thing ourselves like you are, mostly because then you get to decide everything! I have definitely had to bend to my parents’ opinion on things, and I hate feeling like my FI and I don’t have total say over the wedding. Oh well…
Post # 11
I chose Brides Parents but it was both our parents. Mine paid for the majority of the wedding, while his parents paid for the alcohol at the wedding, the rehearsal dinner and the day after brunch.
Post # 12
My parents are paying for a substantial portion of the wedding day, although since his family has twice as many guests as either my family or my FI and I, they are paying for the extra meal cost associated with their longer guest list. In addition, his parents are paying for the flowers and the rehearsal dinner. We are paying for our attire (I paid for my dress, he is buying a tux), our rings, gifts for our attendants, the band and photography. It’s not a tidy split and i think is coming close to 1/3, 1/3, 1/3 but it’s working for us. Geographically, we are in the south but our families are from all over (I’m from the west coast, his family is from the midwest).
Post # 13
My parents gave us a 10K budget which I am ever so thankful for! Anything exceding that we pay for although I am hoping to make it work (not including the honeymoon). His parents are paying for the rehearsal dinner. 🙂
Post # 14
We’re paying for the wedding, but FI’s parents are gifting us with the reception dinner. = D
Post # 15
my parents are paying for most of it, but his parents are paying for the rd and alcohol.
Post # 16
FI and I are paying for everything ourselves. We’re both in our late 20s, and I felt silly asking my parents foot anything for our wedding. I’m a big girl now.
We both also have fairly “opinionated” families, so having the whole “my money/my decision” thing on our side helps.