money or gift

posted 3 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 2
300 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

klhubb:  I would say if she asked and you really would prefer the money – tell her that! I know that when I am buying a gift for someone I would much rather give them something I know they really want/need rather than get them something that wouldn’t be as useful.  You could always tell her that you would prefer money because you are going to put it towards something larger (ie. washer and dryer, home renovation, home downpayment etc so that she at least knows where her money is going!)

Post # 3
1988 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

Well, since she asked herself, I don’t think it would be rude to tell her that you’d prefer money! You could even say “Dear Friend, I don’t want to sound rude but since you were so awesome and asked, do you think you could still just give us the money? We really need it for ____” I don’t think your friend will mind. She’ll avoid a trip to the store too, maybe she hates shopping so she’ll actually like that better 🙂

Post # 4
8680 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

I would be honest and tell her exactly what you’d like, maybe in a nicer way. “We would prefer money but whatever you decide to get is fine”. When people ask it’s because they would like to get you something you’ll get the best use out of. She wouldn’t ask if she didn’t want to know!

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