Post # 1
I was speaking with a girl at work today and she told me that they went “cheap” on their Tungsten wedding rings because it wasn’t a priority (she still doesn’t wear her wedding ring cos she doesn’t like jewellry). However, I know that they spent €47,000 or $61,951 on the wedding ceremony and reception, so I know that her ring small ring expense wasn’t because of tight budget.
I also know a couple that spent nearly all the (large) budget on the girl’s e-ring because it’s a “forever” symbol and they eloped without having a wedding or reception.
AND another girl whose priorty was to have her dream designer dress and most of the budget was spent on that.
My e-ring is heirloom which is lucky for me but still the amount of money I’m spending on our wedding and reception is more than the value of my e-ring. We’re still unsure about honeymoon destinations because we’re not sure when we’ll be able to get time off – I’m still relatively new in my position and my FI started a new job a month ago. But we decided to spend quite a bit on the wedding because … well it’s only going to be once
What was/is your priority budget wise?
Post # 3
My priorty was the venue and food – that ate up about 2/3 of our budget.
I do not factor in the ring as a “wedding expense” since I got it before we started budgeting, even if I did, my ring we got off an online retailer and paid 10% of the cost (500 for a 5,500 ring)
Dress was a gift from mom/dad so again didn’t factor into the budget, but if I did that’d of been about 1000 and I’m covering alterations.
Honeymoon is a separte item again, but our honeymoon is in March of 2014 and we’re getting married this July… If that factored well that’d be a lot more, Honeymoon will be about 10k since its 3 weeks in Japan. A lot of that $ is on the flight….
Post # 4
i agree with @Elky: about the e-ring and honeymoon. i don’t consider those to be wedding expenses and were not included in our budget. our reception venue was really the only expense. we got married at city hall so it was super cheap. my mom’s friend did the bouquet and boutonierre, my mom paid for my dress (about $1300) and my dad paid for photography (about $1500). we were expecting to pay for everything ourselves so those were both nice surprises. the venue was an all inclusive pacakge so total for that was about $6500 (for 40 people). my e-ring was $2300 so a big expense compared to our wedding budget but it was purchased before we started planning.
Post # 5
@Elky: Our goal is Japan too 🙂 are you going to join any type of tour?
Ring cost him about $4,000. I didn’t really have much of a say in that. It was his own money and that’s the ring he chose.
Combining Ceremony/reception is tough. If you mean EVERYTHING including venue, rentals, DJ, Food, and Decor it’s costing a bit under $10,000
The venue alone was $1800
Post # 6
@Elky: +1 to the ring not really counting towards the wedding budget. Personally, I know my ring cost more than our budget for the wedding, but that’s because my parents are paying for the wedding, and my FI bought the ring.
We’re keeping our wedding small (under 75 people) so we can spend more money on food, alcohol, and some other items that are high-priority. Sure, we could have blown up the guest list, but we’d be compromising on the experience we wanted.
Post # 7
My rings (2 wedding bands and e-ring combined) cost $5000
Our wedding cost $3500. Super budget! But to me rings are sooo important you weare them every day, but a wedding is only a 1 day event. So the rings were my priority.
Post # 8
Cost-wise, to us (my parents bought my dress):
$Honeymoon > $Engagement Ring > $Wedding
We considered honeymoon and wedding bands completely separate from the wedding. If I added rings and dress to the wedding, it would be about the same or a little more than my engagement ring.
Post # 9
We don’t really have a budget. FI spent a lot on my ring and band, and I spent around $250 on his. Our wedding & reception is so far about $10,000 (for everything). It is nothing we didn’t save up for though, as both of us work very well paying jobs, as well as go to school full time.
But we did spend more on my ring than anything I believe.
Post # 10
It’s not so much that our wedding was higher priority than our rings as it just worked out that way. If I spent what we spent on the ring on the wedding, it would be really really hard given the high cost of living and everything in this area. Vice versa, I got a nice ring and it’s exactly what we wanted (and we get a lot of compliments) but I wouldn’t have felt comfortable spending what we did on the wedding on my rings. So we got everything we wanted, but it worked out that the ring ended up being about 75% less than the wedding itself. The dress was one area where I didn’t want to spend too much but still wanted something dramatic and unusual, which I got, and we have yet to take a honeymoon.
Post # 11
I definitely spent more on the wedding than the ring. I can make modifications to the ring later, or change it out completely, but there is no mulligan on the wedding.
Post # 12
FI spent around (not quite sure) $1,000 on my ring and band as they came together. I have been very lucky in that my mom is helping us with the wedding. She helped me pay for my dress as well as our venue. However, FI and I are paying for the honeymoon ourselves, which is about $1650 total, excluding the excursions and items we buy while there. We also have our expenses for his wedding band, hotel during the wedding, gas travel, and other things for the wedding (invitations, stamps, etc). Overall, the ring is probably in line with the other expenses we have.
Post # 13
Our rings and honeymoon were not part of our wedding budget. We budgeted for those separately. So it didn’t mean that we prioritized our wedding over our rings or honeymoon just because we spent more on that.
Post # 14
We spent more on the ring. I say “we” because we have been living together for almost 3 years and split most everything.
I told him that I’d rather us put the money towards something I would wear every day for the rest of my life, not one day.
(Note: this is just my personal opinion, I am not knocking anybody who does it differently. That’s why I love the Bee, we can see all different opinions.)
Post # 15
@lovelyduckie: Cool! We plan on not doing tours since we have a few specific goals. FI needs us to visit a “side-of-road” Ramen hut. And he needs a day to shop for Figmas for his business (he buys and resells collectables), and wants to sit in a Hot Spring in the mountains. My goal is to stay in a Temple for a night. We started wtih this as a base: http://www.japan-guide.com/e/e2400_tokyo_19.html
Post # 16
Well my parents are paying for the wedding including dress. That’s much more than my ring but not money we spent. Our own expenses for the wedding (wedding rings, gifts, grooms attire) is definitely less than the ring. The engagement ring and honeymoon will be about the same (the honeymoon slightly more but both were/are around 10k). I got my dream ring so I’m happy…