Post # 1
What are your thoughts on monograms? I have heard several people say you shouldn’t have the bride and groom’s names or initials with the grooms last name initial on anything pre-wedding (i.e. save the dates, invitations, etc.). However, I have seen many people do this. I’ve designed two monograms one with his last name initial and one without, so I’m debating which on to use. My personal opinion is that I don’t have a problem with using his last name initial but I want to know what others think!
Post # 3
I think you can do it either way. I can understand why using his last initial would feel more appropriate for after the wedding, but I’ve also received invitations using solely the groom’s last initial. I don’t think there’s a hard and fast rule about it. 🙂
Post # 4
I LOVE monograms! I think they are super pretty. My cake topper is a monogram and I had it engraved into our toasting flutes. Do you have examples of your monograms. I love it with the big his last name initial in the middle. Especially if you are planning on changing your name.
Post # 5
I love monograms as well. I love their history as well as their traditional look. I think that if you are going to use a monogram, you should understand their meaning. So Miss Maria Beth Robertson can be monogrammed as MBR or MRB with the last initial enlarged. If she is getting married the monogram at the top of the invitation would traditionally be her personal monogram because the invitation is issued by her parents. At the ceremony and in some modern save the dates, you’ll see two initial monograms that are normally the bride and groom’s first initial so Maria’s save the date to her groom Lawrence Patrick Smith would be monogrammed M L but the monogram is not wedded to be used in print as MSL until after the bride and groom are married… so when you order stationary you should order a limited number of your maiden name and plan your monograms so that the full blown married monogram doesn’t appear before you say I do and kiss! (If you didn’t know these rules, just be aware that other people do know them and will think it odd if you use a married monogram before marriage.) Then it is the bride can use MBR, MBRS, MRS, LPS, and MSL or LSM and the groom would continue to use his own personal monogram with the exception of personal stationary and household goods (in other words it would be odd to use the married monogram on a shirt pocket but totally appropriate for towels) that would make it make sense to use the combined monogram. You can also choose the combination of letters that makes sense to you. My parents combined monogram happens to combine letters or repeat letters so they tend to use my father’s initials on towels so if it happens that the combination doesn’t work well, it would definitely be appropriate to tweak it a little to be more appropriate.
Post # 6
I really like monograms…
When i make mine, I think i’m going to use the letters of our first names only. (i’m not changing my last name)
Post # 7
I love monograms, and think they can be so pretty when used sparingly. Some people plaster everything with them, and it seems like too much, IMO. I think the general rule is to not use your married monogram (with a shared last name initial) anywhere before you’re married (invites, etc) and only after (cake topper, favors).