Post # 1
Oh my future in laws… how I wish i could choke thee. Just kidding but I really do need to vent. iM SOOOOO FRUSTRATED WITH THIS!!!!!!! My FIL are obviously grown people yet they continually act like children. From the call at 11pm that they NEED pepsi or they will DIEEEE to the annoying “we traded in our car so FI could have his.’ Yes I understand… but neither of them could legally drive anyway. We shell out over 120 in gas a WEEK because they run errands a few times a day. lets go to wal mart and buy food… oops i forgot the milk we must go back…. oops I forgot dinner mints (YES DINNER MINTS) we can’t not have them after dinner. so the feather that toppled the stack-
ok well today is my last day of work because i live like 25 mins away and it just isn’t practical anymore. so the car (his sisters) that they were using broke down. now we had advised her against getting the car as it already had over 400g miles on it and it was sooooo old. well she blames us for that. today FFIL had a dr. appointment which he could have rescheduled. however they wanted me to call off today (ON MY LAST DAY which would involve my job firing me) so that i could take steven to his dr. appt. when we said no that wasn’t a possibility and there had to be something else for us to do they got sooo mad and started telling FI that he had to get his priorities straight etc etc.
FSIL is a nightmare!!!!!! I WANT TO MOVE OUT OF HERE and don’t know how I’m going to make it to my 2014 wedding without losing my mind ugggghhhhhh
Post # 3
Try to distance yourself from them as much as possible. And have your fiance deal with them directly as much as possible. If you get into the habit (or if you already are) of responding to their drama they will keep directing it at you.
My FMIL is a bit of a drama queen so I learned early on not to buy into any of it. And sure enough, she hardly ever comes to me anymore with her drama because she knows I won’t bite.
Post # 4
Dinner mints? Really? I am dying laughing! Are you guys saving to get your own place or what? DH and I live with his parents, currently, but our house is in the works. It’s been a year and sometimes I just want to freaking scream and run as far away as possible. So, I understand how you feel!
Post # 5
Is that all? Lol… I Walked out on the back patio and heard my FMIL tell my FSIL she hoped that I would drop dead before the wedding so she wouldn’t have to deal with me as her daughter in law for the rest oF Her life, and she couldn’t stand my southern accent, what will people think of them having someone like me in their family.
Sorry your going through this, but your not the only one.
Post # 6
@TexasSpringBride: Wow. Just wow. I hope your FI tore her a new one for that comment. That is beyond rude.
Post # 7
@Utopia4us: I haven’t said anything I’m waiting for some really good pay back.
Post # 8
@RobandLil0107: You need to let your FI sort this out. Was there some kind of agreement when they traded in their car so that your FI could get one that lifts would be given when they wanted? How much money was the trade in worth? personally I would try and pay them back the trade in price so that the obligation was no longer there.
Wy not create a calendar like mums do that has all the appointments and when things are going to happen on it. Have a group sit down and agree on which days are shopping days etc etc and get a notepad so that groceries can be put on it and make sure everyone knows that if it isn’t on the list then it isn’t going to be bought.
Ignore FSIL- she probably just has a case of the embarrassed I told you so’s! never nice to have so try and think of a time that you have been in a similar situation and empathise a bit.
Post # 9
@TexasSpringBride: NO that is not all that is simply the very tip of the iceburg. i never said that i was the only one going through this simply that i needed to vent and let some of it out. i’m sorry for what they said to you but seriously i needed to vent.
@j_jaye: We have tried. He’s talked to them so many times over all their BS and they don’t listen to him. The deal that they had was we would help out with whatever they needed since FSIL has a car as long as we were able to get to school, work and back. Also, we tried the whole writing everything down bit. We went out and bought a huge EXPO calender with a notes section. We wrote down our entire schedule with a two week leniance they used it for three whole days before deciding it was too much work. I am at my wits end!!! o and FSIL she’s just like that she’s two faced completely. I overheard FSIL talking to FMIL all sorts of nasty things about me. It’s just horrible.
@Pinksapphire: Yes we are saving up to buy our own place but its just not happening quickly enough :/