Post # 1
This is a bit of an awkward post to write, but any advice is welcome. For the past few months I have been convinced that my period won’t be here on our wedding day (November 9, 2013), but each month it has started moving closer and closer to our wedding date. Last month was the 15th, this month it came today, the 11th. I counted on the calendar and if we’re talking a 28 day cycle, it’s now scheduled to come the day before our wedding, meaning day 2, my heaviest, crampiest, moodiest day will fall on our wedding day. I’m pretty upset about it to be honest. Not so much because we won’t be able to consumate the marriage on the night we get married (but that IS incredibly disappointing to me) but because I’m completely stressed out about how to handle the *ahem* changing of “lady supplies” throughout the day while wearing a white dress. I’m generally a fan of pads over tampons, so this might be a small saving grace, but really, when wearing an unnaturally large dress, how easy is it truly to change ANYTHING in that area?
My fiance, hearing how upset I am, suggested trying to find ways to throw my period off so it comes a bit later. The problem is that I can’t take the pill because I get really bad migraines from all kinds. I know this is one of the go-to ways to delay a period. He said he heard that taking Plan B (morning after pill) can alter a girls monthly visitor, but he doesn’t know how. Like, would it come earlier or would it come later depending on if it actually does do that. He’s doing some googling about it right now (do i have a good man or what?!) so we’ll see what he comes up with. Does anyone else have any experience with this or tips (besides the pill) on how they delayed their period before their wedding? And if there are no tips on delaying, how did you handle having lady times on your wedding day?
Post # 3
i had mine on wedding day =( but all in all it wasnt too bad. Im very close with my Maid/Matron of Honor and she helped me in bathroom , so did Hubbys sister. as long as someone holds your dress for your its not too hard to change “stuff’. And the wedding night we still got to have fun. just put some towels down. in marriage theres going to be alot of “yucky” things, and a little blood should be least of your worries.
Post # 4
🙁 What a downer. You can still have sex, though, it’s just… messier. And not even that bad if you’re ok with douching first. Plus orgasms are really good for cramps!
But just make an appointment with your doctor and go over your options. I’m sure you can come up with something.
Post # 5
and i dont know how taking plan b would help you much. its basically like taking a super strong dose of birth control pills.
Post # 6
@awake_my_soul: If you can’t take the pill then you can’t take Plan B. It’s basically a whopping dose of the pill. Also, knowing how the hormonal effects of getting on and accustomed to oral contraceptives. I do not suggest doing so in the thick of planning a wedding. You will be an emotional mess.
How heavy is your flow? I was on mine on the wedding day (last day or so) and just changed my tampon right before the ceremony. We left by midnight so I never had to change it. As for sex, there are no rules against having it while you have your Aunt Flo in town. Just use a towel.
ETA: You couldn’t pay me enough to wear a pad in a wedding gown! It’s already hot enough under there! Talk about swamp a**!
Post # 7
@MrsM914: when we first started dating we had a little “oopsie” with a condom and i had to go and take plan B and surprisingly didn’t have any migraines from it like I do with every single pill I’ve tried taking. maybe because it’s a one-off hit of everything instead of every day having high doses of estrogen being ingested it didn’t cause the same effect as the pill. i’m not sure.
my monthly, especially on day 2 (the day it seems to be scheduled to fall on) is quite heavy. we’re talking needing to be replaced every couple of hours kind of heavy. If it was the second to last or last day then i wouldn’t be worried as it can often be lighter. but day 2 aaaalways is really bad. I’m open to the idea of having sex with it and with a towel underneath, it’s more so the changing of pads while wearing a huge poofy white dress. I’ll probably be giving my twin sister the job of helping me out i think.
Post # 8
You could change completely out of your dress every time you need to use the restroom and then change back into it once you’re finished.
I actually did this on my wedding day for several reasons. The only downside to doing this — one that I really had not thought through, is that it took about 20 minutes for each of these restroom breaks, from start to finish, given all that was required for me to get out of and back into my gown.
Post # 9
@awake_my_soul: That really stinks. I’m sorry. Does Plan B make your period come early?
It sounds like your best plan of action is assigning the task ahead of time to a friend to help hold the gown while you take care of business. I really recommend against the pad though, I think you will regret it. However, if you have to change every couple of hours then you can always just try it and see how it goes.
Have you ever tried the depo shot or nuva ring?
Post # 10
@awake_my_soul: Do you happen to have a pic of your gown? Maybe we can talk logistics if anything.
Post # 11
I really REALLY do not recommend taking any sort of hormonal pill to try to throw off your cycle. Your body works hard to regulate itself and when you start on hormonal pills you are for example supposed to start at the end of your cycle on the sunday after. Beginning hormonal pills in the middle of a cycle is going to throw your body through a loop.
Post # 12
@awake_my_soul: This is weird, but I’ve heard drinking a lot of parsley tea can make it come a week or so early. A friend of mine tried it and it actually worked for her, but you never know what else could have caused it of course. Here’s an article:
I’ve also heard loading your body with vitamin C (it is a water-soluble vitamin, so you can’t really overdose or anything) can do the same.
Post # 13
@awake_my_soul: I honestly wouldn’t do anything. BC can have too many side effects right away, which would make it worse. I aslo wouldn’t do plan B in that case.
I didn’t have mine because I purposely skipped it, but even if you were on day 2 of your period, you will be too busy to notice, I promise. The day is so busy and lovely that you aren’t worries about that much.
And if you do have to change your pad/tampon, whatever you decide, you can do it with a dress on. If you have a friend (or even your hubby) that you really trust have them hold your dress up for you. Otherwise, you may have to slide all your undergarments off, do your business, and then put everything underneath back on.
Post # 14
sorry, i have to advice
i am expecting my period 2 days after my wedding, next week.
i was super worried about blood and a white dress.
maybe stress will delay your period?
not period related, but the best way to pee in a wedding dress is backwards. have someone hold your dress in the back and walk facing the wall where the toilet is then stoop. hopefully you won’t have to go #2. i don’t know how one would do that.
Post # 15
have you tried an iud? i have one ,and i love it. no hormones. i have the paragard. my insurancce completly covered it all, including office visit!
Post # 16
Plan B is NOT birth control. The BC pill basically stops your ovaries from producing eggs. Plan B, on the other hand, is only meant to be taken if you’ve had unprotected sex or think you may conceive without wanting to, and it then creates a thick (gross, sorry) mucus around your egg to create a barrier that the sperm cannot penetrate, basically preventing pregnancy. It will not impact your period whatsoever, so there’s no point in taking it for this purpose.
If you’re not going to take some form of birth control, there isn’t much you can do but deal with having getting your period on the big day 🙁 It wouldn’t be the end of the world; just a nuisance. Sorry I don’t have better advice!