(Closed) More attractive if I were skinny?!

posted 4 years ago in Fitness
Post # 3
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2214 posts
Buzzing bee

You’re overreacting. And picking up smoking to lose weight is the stupidest thing I’ve ever heard.

Post # 4
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Only Victoria’s Secret models are 10s. Don’t worry about it. He loves you, he thinks you’re sexy. You’re not perfect and neither is anybody else. 

Post # 5
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90 posts
Worker bee

Yup, he’s a jerk for saying it, but you shouldn’t obsess over it.  Dismiss it.  I wouldn’t do anyting about it.  Your weight doesn’t sound bad for your height.  Also, if you already eat healthy and exercise, what more can you do?  Personally, I’d go back to eating three real, healthy meals and cut down on the protein shakes.  And no smoking.  Why eat healthy and exercise and then add smoking to the mix?  Don’t smoke.  It isn’t healthy.  There are more important things between the two of you than him simply thinking you are the most gorgeous person in the world.  Get pregnant if you’d like.  If you want kids, have them.  Don’t not have kids because you’re afraid you’ll never get your figure back…  I wouldn’t stress over his comment…  

 

 

 

Post # 6
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609 posts
Busy bee

I’m not sure if this is real or not. 

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I think his comment was pretty harsh- I’d be really upset as well. Please don’t take up smoking- yuck! It’s so bad for you. Just keep with the diet and exercise and the weight will drop off slowly. I don’t think there are any good get-skinny-quick tips that would ever work. You have to love yourself, regardless of weight, size etc. You’ve lost a ton of weight and should be so proud- your FI should love you 110% and not care what you weight imho.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I’m 5’9″ and 160lbs…no one thinks I’m overweight…I’m sure you’re fine as well

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I am not 100% always attracted to my husband.  Doesn’t mean I don’t love him or that I don’t want to be with him or I don’t want to have sex with him.  Not everything he does is attractive, and I’ll be honest – when he doesn’t take care of himself or puts on more weight than is healthy, I’m not as attracted to him.

I love him, of course I do.  I want to spend the rest of my life with him. But wanting to jump his bones because I’m 10 out of 10 attracted to him all the time just isn’t realistic nor is it as important as everything else he is for me.

You are over reacting I think, but I think that looks/weight are very sensitive for women.  Try not to take it as a negative thing, a 9 is a really good thing.

Also as someone who quit a million times and started again a million times because I gained weight – don’t do it.  It’s not worth it.  If you quit, stay quit – the addiction is hard enough without starting because of a (harmless) comment from your fiance.

I’m sure you look great, you’re a great weight for your height. Don’t take it the wrong way, even though I know it’s hard not to. xoxo

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Muckenthaler Cultural Center

Stop smoking! I’m sure he loves you they way you are and was just being dumb. He’d much rather have a wife that lives a long healthy life, as opposed to a wife who suffers from smoking related diseases!

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Smoking will not increase his attractiveness to you.

when I read your post, my first reaction was “don’t ask questions you don’t want answers to”.

that being said, what he said wasn’t super nice but it’s not something to completely freak out about. He did say he had stuff to work on too so it wasn’t all against you. 

Post # 12
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

You asked him!!! Don’t ask questions you dot want to hear the answer to. I think you’re way overreacting and being really stupid by taking up smoking to lose weight. In sure he’d rather you had a little extra weight to love on then have you stinking like an ashtray.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@fattybride:  You are way over-reacting.  No one is perfect, and no one is perfectly attractive (physically) to their spouse every moment of every day.  I think he is very attracted to you and you’re making an issue where there isn’t one.  Plus…..not everything about attraction and why we love someone has to do with their physical attractiveness.  You want him to love you for the whole you, not just your body….bodies change.

p.s. sorry…but I don’t think you need “get skinny quick” tips and I also don’t think he was being a jerk.  You asked him a direct question that he tried to avoid the answer to (knowing you may not take it well, which you didn’t) and when put on the spot he did answer you rather than lie to you.  That doesn’t make him a jerk, it makes him honest.  Honesty that is hard for you to understand, perhaps….but really I think honesty is better than a lie.  

Post # 14
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

OP are u serious?! A 10? Really

maybe I am crazy bc NOBODY is a perfect 10 to me including my FI so it just doesnt seem that I would expect that answer from someone for those reasons…

Please think of other things to take your mind off of this. 

Post # 15
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

OK, realistically I personally think its fine not to be 10/10 physically attracted to your SO so I think you’re overreacting. It’s not just about the physical when it comes to attraction. Stop beating yourself up about it. You’re already healthy, was anyway, but one meal a day? Don’t give yourself an eating disorder trying to attain some dumb ideal.

Post # 16
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Blushing bee

@fattybride:  FIRST, you’re overreacting. I’m 5’6″ and 125lbs and my boyfriend still says (gently) that he would LOVE if I had abs….Sorry bf, I just love ice cream and hate crunchs…(as I eat some, currently lol) That doesn’t mean that he doesn’t LOVE me and think I’m beauful. He is so handsome but if he had huge muscles, I probably would be a little MORE attracted to him. Such is life! He obviously thinks your beautiful and love you or he wouldn’t have asked you to marry him! 🙂 SECOND, don’t label yourself “fattybride” yikes! That’s what you’ll see everytime you log onto WB. That’s a real good way to knock your self esteem. :C 

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