Post # 1
Are there any bees out there that had a lot more bridesmaids than grooms men? FI already knows he wants his best friend and brother as grooms men but doesn’t have anybody else he really wants as groomsmen.
I have three sisters I would like to include. FMIL already assumes FI brother’s wife will be a bridesmaid. Which I think would be nice. And I was thinking about asking FI best friend’s girlfriend too.
i was thinking maybe I’ll just have two bridesmaids and have my sisters as unofficial ones or something. How do you think it would look to have two groomsmen and five bridesmaids in pictures? Also, the bridesmaids would vary widely in body type so I would probably want to let them pick their own dresses. I’m thinking blue and peach for my colors. Not 100% on that yet though.
Post # 3
You do not have to have even sides at all, but I would only pick people to whom you have close relationships. It’s a nice gesture to include FI’s family members, but it’s not necessary.
If you decide to have more BMs than GMs, a good photographer will arrange everyone so the photos look great. The last wedding I was at had all the GMs up front with the groom and the BMs walked in unescorted then as they left each GM had two BMs so it all worked out great.
Post # 4
I might end up having fewer bridesmaids than groomsmen…but it doesn’t matter !
Post # 5
I have 10 bridesmaids and 7 groomsmen. There was no possible scenario where both sides were going to be even, so it didn’t matter to us.
Post # 6
Sides dont have to be even, mine won’t be and I’m fine with that. If it is pictures you are worried about, dont. A good photographer will make everything look balanced. Trust in your photog.
Post # 7
I think you can have uneven sides. But, if you want your sisters included, I wouldn’t make them “unofficial” bridesmaids just to keep your numbers even and your FMIL happy. It wouldn’t be fair to you not to have your own sisters in favor of FBIL’s wife. Have your sisters, and then decide if you want to include FBIL’s wife or FI’s friend’s girlfriend.
If you’re including women from your FI’s side, are there any men from your side that he could include? I’m only suggesting this if having more even sides is important to you. Like, are any of your sisters married or in long term relationships and their SO’s could be included? I think if you’re including people for your FI, it would be nice for him to include people for you as well.
Post # 8
I’m not having evened up sides either. We would have had to either not include someone special or ask a bunch of people that we aren’t so close to. FI has also been in a few weddings where it was clear that he was asked only to even up the sides and that’s asking a lot of someone! As long as it doesn’t bother you (and it shouldn’t) go for it!
Post # 9
Thanks for the advice bees. I’m probably stressing more than necessary over numbers. 🙂
Post # 10
Anything goes. Don’t worry about uneven sides. But the more bridesmaids, the greater the expense and the greater the DRAMA
Post # 11
@Verlidaine: For my brother’s wedding he had a groomsman drop out a week before, so 2 bridesmaids walked down with 1 groomsman. It sounds a little weird, but it was easy to arrange and the pictures looked great. So that’s one idea!
Post # 12
@Verlidaine: You dont have to have even sides.
FI has 5 GM and I have 4 BM. So we will have one BM walk down with 2 guys! No biggie
I mean unless you have severe OCD lol