More bridesmaids than groomsmen

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

You do not have to have even sides at all, but I would only pick people to whom you have close relationships.  It’s a nice gesture to include FI’s family members, but it’s not necessary.

If you decide to have more BMs than GMs, a good photographer will arrange everyone so the photos look great.  The last wedding I was at had all the GMs up front with the groom and the BMs walked in unescorted then as they left each GM had two BMs so it all worked out great.

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I might end up having fewer bridesmaids than groomsmen…but it doesn’t matter !

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I have 10 bridesmaids and 7 groomsmen. There was no possible scenario where both sides were going to be even, so it didn’t matter to us. 

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Sides dont have to be even, mine won’t be and I’m fine with that. If it is pictures you are worried about, dont. A good photographer will make everything look balanced. Trust in your photog.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I think you can have uneven sides. But, if you want your sisters included, I wouldn’t make them “unofficial” bridesmaids just to keep your numbers even and your FMIL happy. It wouldn’t be fair to you not to have your own sisters in favor of FBIL’s wife. Have your sisters, and then decide if you want to include FBIL’s wife or FI’s friend’s girlfriend.

If you’re including women from your FI’s side, are there any men from your side that he could include? I’m only suggesting this if having more even sides is important to you. Like, are any of your sisters married or in long term relationships and their SO’s could be included? I think if you’re including people for your FI, it would be nice for him to include people for you as well.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I’m not having evened up sides either. We would have had to either not include someone special or ask a bunch of people that we aren’t so close to. FI has also been in a few weddings where it was clear that he was asked only to even up the sides and that’s asking a lot of someone! As long as it doesn’t bother you (and it shouldn’t) go for it!

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Anything goes. Don’t worry about uneven sides. But the more bridesmaids, the greater the expense and the greater the DRAMA

Post # 11
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

@Verlidaine:  For my brother’s wedding he had a groomsman drop out a week before, so 2 bridesmaids walked down with 1 groomsman. It sounds a little weird, but it was easy to arrange and the pictures looked great. So that’s one idea!

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

@Verlidaine:  You dont have to have even sides. 

FI has 5 GM and I have 4 BM. So we will have one BM walk down with 2 guys! No biggie

I mean unless you have severe OCD lol

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