Post # 1
My FI and I are planning to have a somewhat casual wedding in Hawaii (!!). I have 3 sisters who will make up my bridal party, but my FI has only one brother and one best friend who he is sure about as his groomsmen.
I am totally happy for us to have uneven parties but he thinks it would be awkward for him (like people will think he has no good friends to make up the discrepency). He has a few good friends who he could ask, but they are not great friends so they might be surprised at the request.
Maybe we should watch “I Love You Man” to aid in the decision.
Post # 3
I don’t think anyone will think less of him at all! It will look fine in pictures and it will save you the stress of having a fair-weather friend (with a risk of falling through) involved in your special day.
Post # 4
We are having 5 bridesmaids and 4 groomsmen. I think it will be a unique touch.
Post # 5
It’s totally fine to have uneven sides.
Post # 6
Personally, I don’t like uneven wedding parties. I would ask a family member, not a friend, because a family member is not likely to take the position for granted/flake out.
Post # 7
I think it is personal preference. We have 4 GM’s and 3 BM’s (one of my friends just recently dropped out…) We are also having a FG. I went back and forth with being okay with it and not. Finally I decided the older sister of our little FG (sister’s 12) is going to be a Jr. BM. (I used to nanny both of them, so I am close with both girls) It will make her day and even it out better. I think you need to try to picture what it’ll look like and then decide.
Post # 8
@MrsBroccoli: I guess it depends on your family–I have family members that I trust even less than my friends and who would definitely flake out if I invited them to a destination wedding.
I think uneven wedding parties are perfectly fine and that no one would think any less of him! But if he’s uncomfortable with it, then he should definitely think about asking someone–because it is his decision and you don’t want him to be uncomfortable on his own wedding day!
Post # 9
Leave it how it is! I had 3 BMs and he had 2 GMs. We only wanted our most important people up there with us and no “fillers”.
Post # 10
I don’t think anyone will think less of him, most of your guests probably won’t even notice. However, if it’s making him uncomfortable, I think you should even it out. I like the option of having someone in his family step in more than having a not so close friend step in. Is losing one of your BM’s an option or are they all really special to you/already asked them? Find out if it’s really bothering him or if he’s just worried about what other people would think. I personally would feel really self concious if I had less BM’s than my FI had GM, but maybe he’s not as worried about it as I am.
Post # 11
ours ended up uneven too and it was fine! we had 2 girls walk together with one guy in the middle (out of the church and into the reception)… looked great actually! they made good fun of it dancing into the reception 😉
Post # 12
We had uneven as well. I had 4 and he had 3 and I think it looked fine. And we’re sooooo glad we didn’t ask the person that he was going to (friend of his since preschool, but known to be a little flakey) since he didn’t even show up as a guest at the last minute.