(Closed) Sex positions with an overweight partner?

posted 6 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 3
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

I would maybe consider changing the title to be a little more sensitive, as we are all shapes and sizes and “Fat” is rather offensive.

This is something you guys will have to explore as part of your marriage to find what works for everyone. Communicate with each other , and I’m sure things will fall into place. I really don’t have any specific advice or tips, but google or some other posters may have answers for you.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

[post moderated for name calling]

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

@Eva Peron:  +1

I’m concerned that you seem to be so preoccupied with his weight. Sex is an important part of marriage and from the sounds of it you are not looking forward to it. It doesn’t even sound like you are attracted to him. 

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Also think you should change the title of this thread but whatever.

 

Look, if you love the dude enough to wait to have sex with him, AND MARRY HIM (minor detail), then you’ll find a way to enjoy sex with him.  If his belly gets in the way, get on top.  Whatever you do, at least show him that you’re genuinely enjoying himself and love him no matter what, because I’d imagine he might have some apprehension about the whole thing and probably can’t wait to experience this with you.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

Yikes! Sorry op that people are being harsh…Hot damn…. 

 What if you tried girl on top and … Idk what it’s called but a spoon position? They might be the  most comfortable

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

The title of the post made me think of that episode of Family Guy….just saying…. 😉

 

 

I agree with girl on top or spooning like imalittlebirdie said.  Good luck!  I’m sure it will be incredible for both of you. 

Post # 12
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

Another vote for changing the title. My husband and I are both plus size and I found it a tad offensive. You can change the title by clicking “edit” under your post.

As for positions, we’ve found very few limitations. We can’t pull off those crazy acrobatic poses but I don’t think the average couple can. I think you just need to try it out and see what works for you. Fwiw, you seem to be dwelling an awful lot on his weight and I don’t think that’s cool. I imagine he would probably be pretty upset to find out that you’re stressing out over having sex with him.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

@KittyCupcakes:  That’s good to hear. I’m not trying to be a jerk but reading this post that’s how it came off to me. 

I really hope you can get some good suggestions from everyone. 

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

What about man boobs? I can’t exactly see myself slowly licking his chest……HELP!  —  in fairness the thought of licking my FI’s man chest doesn’t thrill me and he’s slimmer than me!!

I would say that you will just need to talk to each other and experiment, and I’m sure that will be half the fun!!  I don’t have personal experience of having sex with someone larger than me, but you on top sounds like a sure winner, but that doesn’t mean you can’t try missionary.  If neither of you are comfortable then move.  How about him sitting and you kneeling over him, on top?  You could always try (depending on his height) you sitting on the dining room table and him standing – just don’t tell dinner guests about this???!! haha!!

 

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