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posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
Hostess
7630 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

I didn’t read your previous posts but I don’t think she’s being a bridezilla. If her aunt is doing it for free it’s fair for her to ask you to choose one of two days on two different weeks. If you can’t make those then I wouldn’t rock the boat – just go to a seamstress and pay for the alterations.

Post # 4
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2179 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2024

If you can’t get to the aunts house when she is available I suggest taking the dress and paying for alterations on your own.

 

Post # 5
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6505 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

Can you pay for your alterations then? If I’m doing alterations for free for someone, I would expect them to work with my schedule. If you can’t work with the hours that she is available, I think you’ll have to go elsewhere.

Post # 6
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405 posts
Helper bee

What everyone else said.  Go someplace else and pay for your own alterations.  

Post # 8
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2179 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2024

I read your previous post about losing weight and not wanting to get alterations done too soon. I really think it’s in your best interest to just tell the bride you’ll get it altered on your own, that way you can do it on your own time schedule and closer to the wedding so you know the dress will fit.

 

Post # 9
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6505 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

@jennmc85:  I get that it’s  frustrating but at this point I would just pay someone to do them so that I could do it around my schedule.

Post # 11
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613 posts
Busy bee

@jennmc85:  I know it may not seem like a huge deal to ask for another date from her aunt but she porb dones want to be a nusence to her if shes already doing is for fee. I also read you last post that your going down 2 dress sizes (first of all that is amazing!! good for you) I dont know if the aunt is a professional semstress or not but that is alot of work that can take alot of time just your dress could be a 2-3 weeks worth of work (shes going to have to rebuild your dress and she has other girls dresses too. I see why shes wanting to get this done if her wedding is in May. I would suggest just paying for your own or making a good effort to move your schedual around like you can push the spry tan back and go before the appointment it should take her no more then 20 mins to pin the dress

Post # 13
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284 posts
Helper bee

I would just get your alterations done yourself, whether that’s paying for them or having someone you know do them. It’s hard to work around everyone’s schedule, I know as I’m a bride with two bridesmaids who live 5 hours away from me in opposite directions. But at the same time, I’d think she and her aunt would be relieved that you’re taking one dress off of their hands by taking care of it yourself!

I wouldn’t tell her straight up that she’s being a bridezilla, but kindly explain to her that you’re sorry that the schedules just aren’t lining up, but you’ll be happy to take care of the alterations of your dress yourself, that way it’s one less dress for her to worry about, and she’s welcome to send you any info (e.g. some people have the dresses all hemmed at different lengths on the girls so they create a straight line in pictures, while some people choose to hem 1inch above the knee cap or something along those lines) and you’ll make sure the dress is altered similarly.

Hopefully this clears up for you soon, you both sound pretty busy and I’m sure things will smooth out when you offer her such an easy worry-free solution 🙂

Post # 14
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1627 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Sounds like a lot of back and forth…how about askingbfor the aunts number and you schedule directly with her or take it to your tailor.

Post # 15
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804 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@jennmc85:  I think you should try to look at her side of the story from a more favorable perspective.  Her aunt is doing the alterations for free, and that does mean you can’t have her at your beck and call.  I think it would be easiest to just get your alterations done yourself.

Post # 16
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3410 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I don’t read this as her being a bridezilla at all….

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