- 7 years ago
- Wedding: October 2011
Ok I posted before about how she wanted us to inviter her grandkids, who are small and have hardly met us (i.e. once at therir great grandpas funeral). We decided not to so when she emailed me yesterday asking who was and wasn’t invited from her guestlist I attempted to be honest. We did not include 2 couples from her list as well as her grandchildren with the explanation that her kids could use a nice night out away from their kids. And I was shocked when I got an email asking if she and/or FFIL had upset us since we haven’t seen them since we got back from the cruise, and FI didn’t call them when I or FBIL went to the hospital and how much this was hurting FFIL because he didnt feel like we was involved.
We went on the cruise in January and they spent the last two days of it yelling at us almost nonstop for no real reason. FI did call FFIL when I was in the hospital and he hung up on FI because he was too busy to talk and FFIL never called him back like he promised. We didnt call when we took FBIL to the ER cuz we weren’t sure anything was wrong and it was 1am. AND I’m sorry but I do not want to get in the middle of this. FI parents have been divorced for sme 12-15 years and FFIL has not been involved in the boys lives anymore than the courts dictated so now that the boys are grownups they are used to not seeing their dad. I replied and attempted to diffuse by saying that I didn’t know about any of that but that we did want them to figure out a weekend that they could have dinner with us and my parents.
Am I wrong for wanting FI to take care of this so that I can stay out of it? What should I do if FFIL’s GF tries to get me to handle this or contacts me about this again? Did I handle it right so far?