More drama with this GL ready to call this whole things off!!!!!

posted 2 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
1071 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Greenbrier Country Club

Guest list stress can be very overwhelming. Try to take a deep breath and step away for a moment to collect your thoughts and composure.

Be firm about the guest list cap and your inability to pay for extra guests. It seems like she wants to back out of paying for drink if she doesn’t get her guests added. I think her guest list is unreasonable. 

Try to calmly explain that the gl has already increased for her Once and that you simply do not have the money to pay for those extra guests.

Be firm. And while it may get heated, try to stay calm. Focus on how awesome it will be to be married too your fi.

Post # 3
163 posts
Blushing bee

sending you a big virtual hug!

i personally think she is really out of order – take some deep breaths go over to Fi’s and both of you sit down together and explain why she cant have that many people – hope you get things sorted 

Post # 5
42089 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

242beauty:  Hopefuly you and FI can be united in your position when you meet with her. I trust that FI’s list includes family on his side, because otherwise 10 names (or 5 couples) really isn’t much to allot to the family of the groom. Has FI gone over his list with her to ensure that the most important family members are included?

Tell her that if she can’t limit her guest list to the number she has been given, you will simply send invitations to the first 10 names on her list, so she better make sure she prioritizes the list.

Post # 6
7654 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

Pft…at this point I’d tell her if she is unable to narrow down her list, you will narrow it down for her. Honestly, I deal with a pushy MIL, and it isn’t about making your FI choose between his family and you. It’s about standing up for what is right and logical. I am sure your FI sees how ridiculous this is.

Most men are visual…can you perhaps make a spreadsheet of your budget and really list it out how these 84 people will affect your budget and how much more money you’d have to spend? I know it would be more work on your part, but it might make your FI realize that, holy crap, we can’t have an additional 84 people.

I would also tell your FI that if he feels the same way as you that you guys should go in as a team and talk to your MIL about the situation. Meaning, you both talk to her at the same time, and do not talk to her about the issue via phone, e-mail, anything unless you’re together. It is going to be awkward and tough, but perhaps if your FI talks to his mom with you there agreeing with him and adding to the conversation it will help. I didn’t have problems with my MIL during the wedding, but I did during pregnancy, and DH and I had to really work on communication and working together to talk to his mom. It took a LOT of patience and understanding for he and I to get on the same page.

Post # 10
1071 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Greenbrier Country Club

242beauty:  I’m really glad you were able to comprimise :)<br />I hope you have smooth sailing during the rest of your planning and certainly for the wedding.

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