Post # 1
Does anyone else feel like they have more things that they DON’T want in a dress (regarding preferences) compared to things you DO like? I recently got engaged and my wedding isn’t for almost 2 years probably, but I’ve been browsing dresses online even before I was engaged (I’ve not tried any on). I loved a couple of dresses, but when I looked at them again a few months later I didn’t like them so much or thought they wouldn’t work on my body type.
Basically all I know is what I DON’T want in a dress, namely:
- Two-piece (or anything that makes the dress look like it has a separate skirt and top)
- V neck
- Straight across neckline
- Cap sleeves, spaghetti straps, off-the-shoulder or halter
- A style that hits me across the widest part of my hips
- Sheath or Grecian style or anything that looks like a nightgown
- ‘Bubble’ skirt hem
What I do like:
- Floor length
- One-shoulder (but very picky about how that should be designed too)
I think my main problem is that I don’t know what would suit me (I’m short with short legs, small-chested, generally petite but with large thighs). At first I wanted a ballgown. Now I like mermaid but think that it would make my legs look even shorter… It also doesn’t help that I’m over 1 foot shorter than my FI and I don’t like wearing heels.
I’m sure I’d have a much better idea of what works on me if I go try on dresses (and I really want to!) but I’m hesitant considering that the wedding is 2 years away!
Anyone else have a long list of dislikes but not quite sure what you DO like? Any tips on combatting this?
Post # 3
Yep! Like you, I hate pick-ups. And I cant stand fit and flare, mermaids and that damn mummy-wrap thing. But amazingly enough, I can see those things on other women and they look gorgeous!
Post # 4
Girl, you are speaking my language. I had a long list of things I didn’t like or want, and only a vague, somewhat wrong idea of what I actually wanted.
Here is my didn’t-want list:
- Pure white
- Dropped waist
- Lace-up corset back
- Straight-across neckline
- Exposed boning or corset
- Corded lace
I ended up with a natural-waist tulle A-line with absolutely no glitter to be found. 😛
Post # 5
Yeah, I had a list of things I didn’t want anything to do with.
That super shiny satin.. just.. no. Pickups… lots of embroidery. Mermaid/trumpet.. pretty much every shape that wasn’t a ballgown. I don’t like exposed boning, or really large jewels…. non-symetrical.
I knew I wanted something with lace, & a ball gown.
Post # 6
@copperbird90: Haha, yup. I sort of apologized in advance when I met a consultant at a dress shop. “OK, so I am that cranky picky person who has a long list of what she does not want, but no idea what I do.” Most of them laughed about it and it did make their jobs easier. “ruffles? no. no crap on the front, nothing heavy, no big skirt, no pickups.”
Post # 7
The good news: a lace, floor length, sweetheart, one-shoulder dress will be easy to find!
Post # 8
I’m glad I’m not alone.
- No lace
- No huge ball gowns
- No bows
- No rhinestones or jewels(no bling whatsoever)
- No ruffles
- No corset back
- No pickups
I’m going dress shopping in a couple weeks and I’m dreading it! I don’t want to be one of those brides but I am such a plain person in my dress amd demeanour and I don’t want to look like someone else, I want to look like me.
Post # 9
I think you should keep a fairly open mind. I was convinced before I went shopping that I wanted a natural waist ballgown with lace, preferably with straps, and absolutely no ruffles or bling. Well in my first dress appointment I found that actually I love both ruffles and bling. My dress has no bling or lace but it is a strapless fit and flare with an enormous ruffled skirt, totally the opposite of what I thought I wanted. You might find you stick to your original ideas, or you might surprise yourself!
Post # 10
I’m glad I’m not the only one with a long list of dislikes! I keep remembering this episode of SYTTD where one girl keeps saying no to everything (ruffles, lace, sparkle, everything) and Randy and the consultant are getting frustrated because she doesn’t know what she DOES like.
@HannahGrace: Hahahaha that’s so going to be me!
@sunflower22: That’s true, but I’m very picky about how the one shoulder works. I don’t want a strap that looks like it can be taken off, and I don’t like it if the dress morphs into the one shoulder so the neckline ends up crossing from one boob to the shoulder. I prefer something like this Monique Lhullier (sorry huge pic):
Post # 11
Just make sure you try on some dresses that are on your “do not have” list. Mine actually ended up being exactly everything I had on my “do not want” list and it looked awesome on. Everything looks different on vs the hanger/model photos.
Post # 12
@copperbird90: I hated pretty much every thing I saw online. But I did go into shopping with an open mind because when I finally tried stuff on that I THOUGHT I would love, I hated thpse too! Ha! The only thing my dress had that I knew I wanted was straps. I had a fairly easy dress search though – 3 stores, maybe 20 dresses before I hit the right one. Don’t stress! Don’t worry!
Post # 13
@CaliMel11: I’ll be sure to do that 🙂 I’ve seen normal clothes on hangers that I thought would look great but did nothing for me when I tried them on. Every dress I see on a model I try to imagine myself in it, because I definitely don’t look like a model (let’s be honest, no-one does)! I still have absolute no’s though like pickups which I hate with a passion. A dress with pickups looks like a quilt to me!
Does anyone have any recommendations as to when I should start dress shopping if our wedding is 2 years away? I know the latest would be 8 months before the wedding to allow for the designer to make/ship it, but what about the earliest? I don’t want to buy something now then have dress regret in a year…
Post # 14
I tried to keep things positive when looking for wedding dresses, and thou I knew there were a few things that I didn’t want, I also knew that with my ‘DO’ list it would be enough for the consultants to bring me something I liked. I didn’t let them know what I didn’t want until they brough/asked to bring a dress with (insert here detail I didn’t like), when I told them: No, I don’t want that.
My ‘DO’ list was as follows:
- tulle + tulle + tulle
- silver embellishments
- long train
If you are interested, some things I didn’t want in my dress were: shiny fabrics, what I call “bridal” fabric (so no micado, no satin, nothing like that) or strapless dresses. Those were NO-NO, but other items on my ‘DON’T’ list were not as important and I was open-minded, so I tried those on.
Post # 15
@skinnypinkmartini: That’s an interesting approach. I guess it’s good since it lets you keep an open mind when they bring you dresses you might otherwise reject. I’m an engineer though so I’m into efficiency, so if I don’t tell them up front what I don’t want, I feel like I might be wasting everyone’s time (the ladies I’ll go dress shopping with hate shopping). Maybe I should just tell the consultant my absolute no’s (pickups and bubble skirt) and leave it at that.
Post # 16
You sound almost exactly like me! Except I hated my arms, and wanted them covered a bit, because they’ve always been big. Here is my wedding photo from 1982. By the way, I did not like the full sweetheart neckline on me, but this modified one was perfect, and I liked the bottom because it disguised (hid) my large hips (apparently so did my large bouquet) 🙂 I also agree with PPs that you should try on different styles just because you may find that you like something completely different on-so many girls here with dress regret! lol!