More dress DISLIKES than likes?

posted 3 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
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2992 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Yep! Like you, I hate pick-ups. And I cant stand fit and flare, mermaids and that damn mummy-wrap thing. But amazingly enough, I can see those things on other women and they look gorgeous!

Post # 4
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461 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Girl, you are speaking my language. I had a long list of things I didn’t like or want, and only a vague, somewhat wrong idea of what I actually wanted.

Here is my didn’t-want list:

  • Ruffles
  • Pickups
  • Satin
  • Pure white
  • Straps
  • Dropped waist
  • Lace-up corset back
  • Rhinestones/”bling”
  • Straight-across neckline
  • Exposed boning or corset
  • Corded lace

I ended up with a natural-waist tulle A-line with absolutely no glitter to be found. 😛

Post # 5
Hostess
8680 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

Yeah, I had a list of things I didn’t want anything to do with.

That super shiny satin.. just.. no. Pickups… lots of embroidery. Mermaid/trumpet.. pretty much every shape that wasn’t a ballgown. I don’t like exposed boning, or really large jewels…. non-symetrical.

I knew I wanted something with lace, & a ball gown.

Post # 6
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1441 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@copperbird90:  Haha, yup.  I sort of apologized in advance when I met a consultant at a dress shop.  “OK, so I am that cranky picky person who has a long list of what she does not want, but no idea what I do.”  Most of them laughed about it and it did make their jobs easier.  “ruffles?  no.  no crap on the front, nothing heavy, no big skirt, no pickups.”

Post # 7
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385 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

The good news: a lace, floor length, sweetheart, one-shoulder dress will be easy to find!

Post # 8
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1646 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I’m glad I’m not alone.

  • No lace
  • No huge ball gowns
  • No bows
  • No rhinestones or jewels(no bling whatsoever)
  • No ruffles
  • No corset back
  • No pickups

I’m going dress shopping in a couple weeks and I’m dreading it! I don’t want to be one of those brides but I am such a plain person in my dress amd demeanour and I don’t want to look like someone else, I want to look like me. 

Post # 9
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2053 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I think you should keep a fairly open mind. I was convinced before I went shopping that I wanted a natural waist ballgown with lace, preferably with straps, and absolutely no ruffles or bling. Well in my first dress appointment I found that actually I love both ruffles and bling. My dress has no bling or lace but it is a strapless fit and flare with an enormous ruffled skirt, totally the opposite of what I thought I wanted. You might find you stick to your original ideas, or you might surprise yourself!

Post # 11
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27 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2014

Just make sure you try on some dresses that are on your “do not have” list. Mine actually ended up being exactly everything I had on my “do not want” list and it looked awesome on. Everything looks different on vs the hanger/model photos.

Post # 12
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545 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@copperbird90:  I hated pretty much every thing I saw online. But I did go into shopping with an open mind because when I finally tried stuff on that I THOUGHT I would love, I hated thpse too! Ha! The only thing my dress had that I knew I wanted was straps. I had a fairly easy dress search though – 3 stores, maybe 20 dresses before I hit the right one. Don’t stress! Don’t worry! 

Post # 14
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353 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I tried to keep things positive when looking for wedding dresses, and thou I knew there were a few things that I didn’t want, I also knew that with my ‘DO’ list it would be enough for the consultants to bring me something I liked. I didn’t let them know what I didn’t want until they brough/asked to bring a dress with (insert here detail I didn’t like), when I told them: No, I don’t want that.

My ‘DO’ list was as follows:

  • tulle + tulle + tulle 
  • sleeves
  • lace
  • silver embellishments
  • princess-like
  • long train

If you are interested, some things I didn’t want in my dress were: shiny fabrics, what I call “bridal” fabric (so no micado, no satin, nothing like that) or strapless dresses. Those were NO-NO, but other items on my ‘DON’T’ list were not as important and I was open-minded, so I tried those on.

Post # 16
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7531 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

You sound almost exactly like me!  Except I hated my arms, and wanted them covered a bit, because they’ve always been big.  Here is my wedding photo from 1982.  By the way, I did not like the full sweetheart neckline on me, but this modified one was perfect, and I liked the bottom because it disguised (hid) my large hips (apparently so did my large bouquet) 🙂  I also agree with PPs that you should try on different styles just because you may find that you like something completely different on-so many girls here with dress regret! lol!

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