More excited about engagement than being married right now. Weird?

posted 3 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
119 posts
Blushing bee

@ComputerLove06:  nope! You are not crazy at all! I think engagement sounds more appetizing now than the actual marriage because at least with an engagement, you know you’ll be one step closer to being husband and wife. Right now, you’re still boyfriend and girlfriend and you have exhausted this stage or the relationship. I swear, these guys have no idea what it means to be a waiting bee! 😉 

Post # 4
2052 posts
Buzzing bee


@ComputerLove06:  HAHA well first of all I’m sorry to hear that you are dealing with this.

Yes waiting can be stressful and facebook doesn’t help ANYTHING!!  I’ve had to get off of it.  People getting engaged, over the top proposals, wedding showers/bridal showers/bach. parties/rehearsal dinners/weddings AND THEN babies ugh.  Maybe it’ll help you to not see this because for me-It’s a reminder of the things I want that I DON’T have yet.

I am excited to be married but *at this moment* I’m more excited for the engagement.  We won’t be getting married without the engagement and I honestly feel like this moment has to happen FIRST before I can allow myself to get excited about the rest.  

I get what you are saying.  I think the only way your statement would be a problem is if you said “I’m more excited to have a wedding than marriage” because then that’s a problem.  

But I’m with you—There is soooo much anticipation once you and your SO talk about ‘being married’ and most men want to be the one to ask and they get drag it out…UGH.  You and I might have an annoucement around the same time, it’ll probably be around summer of next year.  And I’m 30 too…so sometimes it gets to me when younger people who have been together less time get engaged and it’s not their fault, it’s just frustrating.

Good Luck!!

Post # 5
422 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014 - Rebar

@ArmyBeee:  +1!!!! These man honestly have no clue what it is to wait!!! It’s been 10 years for me. I am so done waiting lol 

Post # 6
2052 posts
Buzzing bee

@ArmyBeee:  @katherin788:  

I’ve totally found myself pondering this as well!

Do men know what it’s like to be a waiting bee?  Okay maybe not per se Tongue Out…BUT I’ve wondered what it’s like once a man decides he wants to marry a woman…then he has the pressure of saving up for a ring or figuring out if he wants to do this on credit, then selecting the ring, OH BOY and then the actual proposal haha.

In my mind…I HOPE that my man is wanting to get married as much as I do and for us it’s him finishing school, getting a job, and having the money for a ring.  At least it’s the impression I get when we talk Laughing

Post # 7
1275 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

You definitely aren’t being crazy, but I think this is exactly why it’s not a good idea for couples to plan a wedding before an engagement!  I think it gets you antsy and makes you overthink things and it kind of puts a damper on this stage of the relationship because you’re bitter that it’s not at the next stage yet.  I’d be upset too, but all you can do is be patient and hang in there girl!

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