Post # 1
It is a big year for weddings in my FI’s huge family, so we have been to several rehearsal dinners recently. I have realized that I would like to do something more lively.
FI’s parents are paying and have a healthy budget. Their preference is to just do whatever everybody else is doing, but if we propose a good alternative the right way they will do whatever. We’ll have about 30 people.
My original idea was to get a big mess of take out bbq, hire a band and a caller, and have a square dance! Weeeehoooo! FI’s family was skeptical, but accepting of this strange thing. They know we go to a regular square dancing thing. But I’m starting to feel like it’s maybe too much for me to organize on top of the wedding.
I just want to eat and then DO something together. My wedding is going to be full of strangers from his side so I want to have a good time the night before with the people I already know.
Thoughts? Or should I just suck it up and do the square dance? I’m really massively stressed already though.
Post # 3
@TrousseauHorse: I’ve heard about bowling RD’s lately. I know in my area at least there are several NICE bowling alleys that offer good food and really good drinks.
I know this doesn’t count as DOING anything, but my FI and I are considering a non-traditional RD at a local restaurant that is themed as a 1950s pop shop. They have a private room and the catering menu offers things like hot dogs, cheese fries, mac and cheese, grilled cheese buffett, cheesesteaks, fried chicken, buffalo chicken, milkshakes and all kinds of other junk/comfort food.
Post # 4
i’d love to have a catered pig roast – my parents did it year ago and it was amazing! with staff etc so you don’t have to do any work, but so fun!
there’s a woodfired oven pizza restaurant in my hometown that has a portable wood fired oven. they come to your event and for a flat 1000.00 make pizzas for up to 40 people 🙂 they bring tons of gourmet toppings, roll out and throw the dough right there, your guests get to pick whatever they want and into the fire it goes!
i’d LOVE to do that one 🙂 it’s my plan at the moment. then, after sunset, i’d love to set up a huge projector and screen outside with patio furniture, blankets, bean bag chairs and cafe lights and screen a movie – father of the bride? ferris bueller? and get a popcorn machine!
sorry for rambling 🙂
Post # 5
What about dinner at a Murder Mystery Show? (if you can find one available) Or Hibachi and rent out their big room and then hire Japanese Kabuki artists or dancers for fun? Or what about a huge mess of different ethnic food take out (Chinese, Indian, Italian, Greek, etc) and then have a massive board game night?
Post # 6
- Wedding: November 2012 - Oak Tree Manor
@TrousseauHorse: What about having the BBQ at a park outdoors and having games, like soccer and volleyball and flag football? Maybe potato sack races? That way you don’t have to worry about coordinating a caller and all of the dancing stuff, and you could delegate the games to your FI – just ask him to pick up some sporting goods and pack them for the RD.
Post # 7
I LOVE square dancing!
That being said, I don’t think it would have done over well with my/DH’s families.
But if your family would actually dance, then it sounds SO fun!
Post # 8
Ahh these are some good ideas! I’m glad I asked. Keep them coming!
This somehow made me remember that there is a comic book museum in Baltimore. http://www.geppismuseum.com/Home/7/1/52/506?articleID=69126 FI is a HUGE comic book nerd, as are most of his groomsmen. Just changing up the location could be kind of cool, although it’s not really an activity.
We are having our wedding at an art museum though. Would that go together like “museum theme!” or is it museum overkill?
Post # 9
- Wedding: September 2014 - Banff, Alberta
@TrousseauHorse: We are doing a picnic in the park for all the guests (around 90). I was thinking of going bowling after but the max the alley will hold is 40. So just the picnic, then the rehersal then relaxing for the rest of the night. You will need the rest!