More GM than BMs???

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Do you think it would be strange to see more Groomsmen than Bridesmaids at a weeding?
    Very Awkward! Don't Do it! : (1 votes)
    5 %
    eehh.... to each their own, but I wouldn't try it at my wedding! : (1 votes)
    5 %
    Could be a little strange, but as long as the numbers are not too far off : (1 votes)
    5 %
    Not a bad idea... go for it! : (18 votes)
    86 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    1582 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    @Lala1234:  I saw a beautiful photo, and I’m not quite sure on what site, of a wedding party with 7 BMs and 3 GM, which is a difference of 4 people, so around the same you’d be having. I thought it looked wonderful!

    Post # 4
    Member
    2871 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I don’t have a problem with more on one side or the other, but usually the number is like 1 or 2 difference not 4-5.  10 attendents on either side seems exesive to me.

    Can you give more informaiton on why you have a difference?  Also, is there any way you could make some of the groomsmen ushers instead? 

    Post # 5
    Member
    477 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    I don’t see a problem and I don’t think it’s odd at all.

    Each BM could be escorted by 2 GM!

    Post # 7
    Member
    1248 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I’m having 2, he is having 4.  It doesn’t bother me at all. I never even considered us having even numbers (a non-issue).

    But I will say 10 is a lot of GMs 🙂  I’m guessing lots of brothers/family??  It is a little chaotic to manage so many for fittings, rehearsal, etc.  If he hasn’t asked them all yet, could not some of these men be in the wedding in another role such as a reading? Ushers?

    Otherwise, it is what it is and I wouldn’t worry about odd numbers.

    Post # 8
    Member
    1670 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    I think our sides are going to be uneven. We’re both planning on 3 each but anyone he asks will have to travel from another country, and I have one bridesmaid who might not be able to come (intensive school) – I am completely unworried. 

    10 is a LOT though, logistically. For photographs, for herding them like cats on the day, that’s a ton of people. Could some of them be ushers or do readings?

    If not, I don’t think it’s weird, it’ll be fine. That’s just a ton of people to manage.

    Post # 12
    Member
    2871 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    @Lala1234:  If you want a small wedding party, I would suggest having another chat with him.  We have 10 people that need to get fitted for tuxes in our wedding party (2 dads, 3 ushers, 4 grooms men and a ring bearer) and out of the 10, one has been sized (oddly, the one I did not think would have it done on time and that we would need to track down)  We have had it out there for 2 months now, and have given them another 2 months to get it done. 

    Once you described the whole situation, it sounds like you want less advice on is it okay to be uneven (totally, in my opinion) but more advice on why to say no to 10 groomsmen (holy wow, a lot of people)

    Also, as a note, my cousin had his 4 brothers as ushers and his three best friends as groomsmen.  Abosultely no one was offended by this choice. 

    Post # 13
    Member
    2052 posts
    Buzzing bee

    @Lala1234:  YEAH….I’m in the same boat.  SO comes from a BIG family and ALL of his brothers have resolved to be in each other’s weddings, + friends…he will likely have 6 or 7 groomsmen…and I will have 2 or 3 bridesmaids…possibly more if I ask my SO’s brother’s wife and FI to be in my party. 

    UGH.

    OH WELL. 

    Post # 14
    Member
    2657 posts
    Sugar bee

    I had this same conversation with some friends over the weekend about their wedding.  The groom wants 12 GM’s and the bride only wants 3 BM’s.  One of my other friends suggested that being in the wedding party isn’t the only way to be involved with the wedding.  Some of them could be ushers, someone could be an emcee, some could do readings, etc. 

    Post # 15
    Member
    1896 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    I don’t think it matters! Our counts aren’t even.. 

    Post # 16
    Member
    845 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    @Lala1234:  A girl I know had 6 BMs and her husband had 3 GMs. They had a sweetheart table rather than the whole wedding party at the head table, and they had a good photographer, so while I thought it would seem weird it totally didn’t. I’d go for it!

    Leave a comment


    Sent weekly. You may unsubscribe at any time.

    Find Amazing Vendors