Post # 1
so my Fiance has 5 groomsmen and I have 4 BMs.. we’re having a catholic wedding.. anyways my future brother in law, who is also the best man, is giving me a hard time saying that I need to have 5 bridesmaids, or else it’ll look really weird in pictures and it’ll be awkward for the extra Groomsman..
I really don’t feel like asking another person. the 4 girls I have are close to me. I have a friend in Vegas who is also close to me, but when she asked if I could be in her wedding last christmas, I couldn’t do it .. so I thought it’d be weird or rude to ask her.. even tho she has been texting me and writing on FB a lot since my engagement.. but she knows I already picked my BMs so if I asked her now I don’t know if she’d feel like she was the last pick..
should I stick to the uneven bridal party (less stressful for me ) or get another Bridesmaid or Best Man so it’ll look “better”?
Post # 3
Girl did you just see my post about 6 BMs and 2 GMs?! Haha, I would be happy to have 5 and 4! I need to take my own advice here, but please only ask the people who are important to you to stand with you. I promise it won’t look weird in photos (I have seen SO many photos with uneven parties and I couldn’t even tell unless I counted!) Stick with your 4 girls if that is what will be less stressful for you. 🙂
Post # 4
Sure, why not? Your photographer will make it work – I promise! 😛
Post # 5
Don’t worry about it! We had 8 groomsmen and 4 bms and I don’t think it looked too bad at all. It was definitely worth it to keep it to just the ladies I’m close to.
Post # 6
We have 5 Groomsmen and 3 Bridesmaid or Best Man. I think it will be fine. I was worried about the uneven sides also, but I’m sure your photographer will know how to make things look great. I wouldn’t add someone just to make them even. It will be totally fine if it’s uneven. That’s really common these days.
Post # 7
I think that’s totally fine – I’ve seen wedding parties with more skewed numbers and everything was fine, pictures, etc. It will not look weird. You’ll have one Bridesmaid or Best Man escorted by 2 Groomsmen if you’ve paired people up. don’t ask someone just to make the numbers match!
Post # 8
You’ll be fine. More and more couples getting married have uneven numbers. I’m lucky enough that we have an even number (just worked out that way), but many don’t.
Post # 9
I don’t think it’s a big deal. I’m having 4 bridesmaids, and my Fiance is having 3 groomsmen.
Post # 10
@pandaboo: That’s going to be me! But in my case, my bridesmaids will have 2 groomsmen each.
Post # 11
I had 3 BMs and he had 4 Groomsmen, my in laws asked a couple of times who I was going to ask to be my 4th and I just told them that I had already asked the people I wanted to stand up with me. As far as pictures it was fine, when my photog paired us off one of my girls got to pose with 2 of the guys. Since my husband’s dad was his best man we had him walk in with his young nephews who were our ringbearers but we could have also doubled up and had him help another Groomsmen escort one of my girls down the aisle. Bottom line- only include the people you feel closest to and don’t feel pressured to add another Bridesmaid or Best Man just so the numbers will match!
Post # 12
awe thank you all for the advice !! 🙂 i feel better about it now and like all of you said I don’t want to ask someone just to.. ask and have it even!!!
again thank yoU!
Post # 13
I’m also having 6 bridesmaids and 7 groomsmen… I COULD ask another friend but at the end of the day, the 6 girls I picked are my closest friends and the 7th would only be an acquaintance, so we are going to just make it work. My photographer knows ahead of time so she has already came up with a few ideas to add in our extra guy! 🙂 It will be perfect – and of course, the less stress, the better!!
Post # 14
Go for it girl. Just think how lucky one of the Bridesmaid or Best Man gets to be with a guy on each arm! My FH walked 2 girls down the aisle at his friend’s wedding!