Post # 1
Not sure if this is beehive, honeymoon, or money, so feel free to bump away 🙂
FI and I have done the “prioritizing” list and we both agreed that a fabulous honeymoon for the two of us is our number one priority. Wedding comes second. We’re paying for everything ourselves so if at the end of the day, if all we can afford is a honeymoon, a JP wedding it is. Does anyone else feel this way?
EDIT: I was almost scared to ask…I feel like it’s wedding blasphemy or something
Post # 3
The wedding is most important to me.. it means a lot for both of us.
But the honeymoon will be the mental vacation that we have both needed for a WHILE!
Post # 4
I think the wedding is more important than the honeymoon because its important to me to celebrate with family and friends, and to get off to a great start to our marriage with a beautiful ceremony. But, its more important to me to have a nice honeymoon than an expensive wedding. So I guess I’d say both? I mean if I could ONLY have one or the other i’d pick wedding… but i’m willing to sacrifice some wedding stuff for a nice honeymoon.
Post # 5
For us, both are equal. If I had to pick one or the other, I would have eloped and had the honeymoon we are having.
Luckily, we did not have to choose, but we are doing a honeymoon registry to help out with our three week adventure.
Post # 6
Well, the first and foremost was the ceremony. But that is not expensive per say. We didn’t care much about the reception. Which is why we had the ceremony and honeymoon combined in a DW!
Post # 7
i think they’re both important. the wedding is something special- the start of our marraige. and i just love vacations!
Post # 8
Hmmm… My parents are paying for a lot of our wedding so we can afford a really nice honeymoon. To be honest I always said that if I had to pay for my wedding I would go to the justice of the peace and go on a fabulous honeymoon.
Post # 9
The wedding was most important for us but I think if we hadn’t traveled much that might not have been the case.
Post # 10
The wedding was more important to me because my husband and I both like to travel and we will have other times to travel other than right after we get married. We didn’t get to go on a honeymoon because we were moving right after the wedding.
Post # 11
Wedding is definitely more important to us but that doesn’t mean we don’t want to go on an awesome honeymoon. For me they are in different categories. A wedding is not just about the two of us but the honeymoon is.
Post # 12
Definitely the wedding. I wanted to be sure that guests were taken care of in the way of food and drink. The happier the guests, the more fun the celebration 🙂
We spent under $1,000 on our honeymoon, and only used maybe an additional $400 in spending money for a week. We got a room at an amazing inn in Vermont and totally went low key. All we wanted to do the week after the wedding was sleep, eat and spend some time outdoors. There’s plenty of opportunity for more extravagant trips later in life, but a wedding only happens once!
I’ve also had some friends who planned the “trip of a lifetime” for their honeymoon, and totally regretted it. They were exhausted the whole time.
Post # 13
Obviously in the big scheme of things the wedding is more important to me, but if we’re just talking “what is more important to spend money on” I put honeymoon. Unfortunately it’s looking like limited to no honeymoon for us at this point in time, but I often wish we had chosen to do an immediate-family-only wedding and just spend our money on the honeymoon.
Post # 14
My bf and i are in the same position. If it was up to hip we would just elope. Instead we are going to have a small wedding around 80 people and cut costs where we can. We are going to Sandals Inn for our honeymoon and looking forward to relaxing and enjoying each other!
Post # 15
I voted honeymoon. Money-wise, I’d prefer to spend it on something that lasts longer than 12 hours. Lifetime-wise, the wedding is obviously more important because it contains the ceremony that makes us partners!
But is that how this is turning out? No. If i had my way, we’d go to city hall and spend the money elsewhere, but FH wants to have an awesome “party” to celebrate, so big wedding . . . here we come. Yay?
(Note: we did discuss the wedding size ad nauseum and found a solution that works for both of us – but whenever I have to pay another bill I think “why did we do this again?”)
Post # 16
- Wedding: August 2015 - Suncor Fluvarium
Honeymoon all the way! We are both bitten by the travelbug, and any excuse to travel is great with us!
We arn’t officially engaged as of yet (*crosses fingers for by the end of the summer engagement*), but, we talk about our wedding a great deal. We decided that we are going to have a very small ceremony, and a small reception, with maybe 20-30 people at the ceremony, and maybe 50-60 people at the reception. We are hoping to have it cost anywhere around $10,000 (which is doable for a WONDERFUL wedding in our neck of the woods), and spend a bunch of money on our honeymoon, which we were thinking of either Asia or South America… Somewhere with GREAT food, warm weather, and lots to explore. We are both teachers so, the summer months are wonderful to just take off for a few weeks or a month.
I think I’m actually more excited for the honeymoon then for the wedding itself, and I know that he feels the same way, hence the small wedding. 🙂
But, once I get planning, it could be a different story all together!