More intimacy questions…

posted 3 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 3
331 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

@candy11:  yes to both..from personal experience talking to my guy friends who’ve said theyve done that

Post # 4
641 posts
Busy bee

1) Yes. The male sex drive peaks early on, the wife’s physique may have changed or the husband’s physical preferances may have changed, and there are a variety of substances and conditions that can cause loss of interest in sex. Given how regularly women feel confident enough to stand up and say they’re just not sexually into their husbands, I think it’s a double standard to assume men can’t  feel the same.

2) I think that depends on the man, but more generically, yes. I don’t think I’ve ever encountered a man who is turned on by the sight of his own left hand, but they steel seem to manage.

Post # 5
1312 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - NH

I definitely believe yes to both…and yes to the fact that a woman can do the same as well.

Post # 6
4 posts

1. Yes, but there are different kinds of “love” (I love my brother, but…)

2. Yes.

Post # 7
132 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2015

Love and sex can be two very different things.

Love is a feeling of the heart, and a feeling of committment. Sexual desire can just be a feeling of the moment.

Post # 8
1067 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@candy11:  1. Absolutely!  Though that’s certainly not the only reason that a man could be having performance issues.  Tiredness, anxiety, depression, etc. are all things that can cause problems.

2. Certainly 🙂  That being said, I think there would be a different quality to the act if he wasn’t really ‘in to it’.

Post # 9
3389 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013


1. Yes 

2. maybe?  Yes, If he’s thinking about someone else that turns him on. 


Post # 10
371 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - Beach

Yes I do think a man can love his wife without being attracted to her. A women changes and so does a man so through the journey there might be times where you dont feel atracted to you DH or FI but you love them either way. 

About sex performance I really don’t know so cant give you advice. Maybe yes but it won’t be as great as if his attracted to the woman. 

Post # 11
9525 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

Yes to both!

Post # 11
1801 posts
Buzzing bee

1. Yes, there are different types of love. And you always hear the phrase “I love you but Im not in love with you” right?

2. Yes. Friction alone can get men aroused.

Post # 12
668 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2015 - Family Farm

Just by the way you phrased the questions I wanted to ask if you know for a fact that he is not sexually attracted to you or are you feeling insecure?

Also, men go though many phases and are not as easily aroused or constantly sex craved as most media would lead you to be. Is he struggling at work? Is there a family issue or illness being delt with? Is he stressing about things at home, such as money, home maintenance anyhting like that?

I would look at his world as a whoel before I look at just the bedroom.

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