Post # 1
So, a few weeks ago I got a voicemail from my Grandma about how she won’t be coming to my wedding because my father and I are estranged and she disapproves. Here’s that post: http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/grandma-is-boycotting-my-wedding
Well, my shower is coming up this weekend and I’m so excited to see everybody and that’s really made me relax a little about the Grandmama drama. Then last night I was talking to my sister-in-law and she gave me a head’s up that my Grandma had been trying to coax my father and his wife into crashing the shower and wedding. Seriously??!!
I think that the odds of them actually crashing are slim, but her behaviour is just over the top! I haven’t said anything to Grandma since the boycott announcement. I have no idea what to do, if anything. At this point, do I say something to her, or know that it won’t help anyway? If my father shows up, then what do I do?
Post # 3
If I’m remembering correctly, you are estranged from your father which would make this an incredibly awkward situation for you both. I would think that both your father and his wife would have enough common sense to avoid a situation in which they will be extraordinarily embarrassed and not to mention, out-numbered!
If it makes you feel better to take a few precautions to put your mind at ease – you can do that depending on where is your shower taking place. If it’s at a friend’s home – you can very easily not allow an univited guest into the home. If it’s at a restaurant and you have a private space – you can speak with the GM. It sounds like your Grandmother is really just trying to get a response out of you.
Post # 4
One lesson I learned a long time ago was not to waste energy worrying about what “might” happen. It is so draining.
If you have yet to respond to your Grandma’s voicemail, I would start there. I would phone her and tell her that you will miss her at the wedding and that she is welcome at any time to change her mind. Don’t get drawn into any discussion about your Dad. If she starts in on that subject, just say ” We will have to agree to disagree, I have to go now”, then hang up.
As far as the possibility of your Dad crashing the shower, I really don’t think that is likely. The only person who would be embarassed by that behavior would be him.