Post # 1
Are you doing a morning after brunch? How are you organizing it? Fancy/not fancy? Are you inviting all of yours guests or just close family? My pros and cons so far:
I’ve never met most of my fiancé’s non-immediate family, so it would be a good way to keep getting to know them.
Brunch will be even more relaxed than what we’re hoping will be a pretty relaxed wedding, so no one should feel under any kind of pressure (except me, see 1st con)
I don’t want anyone to feel like we’re rushing them off. i.e. “Ok, you’ve come and we’ve fed and entertained you once, now skedaddle!”
I’ve never met most of my fiancés non-immediate family. Will I be too tired after meeting ALL of them at the wedding to have a repeat performance the next day?
If we only invite some guests to the brunch, will others feel grossly excluded?
Budget issue: After a rehearsal dinner, lunch on our wedding day for the bridal party, and our fabulous dinner that I’m already hungry for, will this break the budget?
Post # 3
I think morning after brunches are a fairly new idea. We aren’t doing one because we feel as though it isn’t necessary. And we would would rather put more money into the reception than a brunch. Plus we are leaving the wedding night to go on a mini-moon (not taking the honeymoon until December when we are both off of work). Really it’s all in your personal preference and what you guys want to do. If it’s in the budget and you think you won’t be too exhausted then I say go for it!
Post # 4
We’re doing one with whoever is staying over at the hotel, so that will be the wedding party, immediate family, and a couple OOT guests. My mom is arranging it all, I’ve just told her what I want, and my parents have offered to pay for it (thankfully!). I think it’s like you said, a nice chance to catch up, talk about the night before, have a few laughs without all the pressure. I think you’d likely enjoy it and you could get to know your FH’s family without all the pretenses.
Oh and as for budget, we’ve been looking for a restaurant with a brunch buffet for about $15-20/head. That’s not awful. Maybe you could find a place and talk to them about a pre-set menu and work out something in your price range?
Post # 5
We are doing one the next day around 11-12 since our wedding is on a Friday, a lot of people will be in town for the whole weekend. Our caterer for our wedding night is throwing in extra food so we can serve the next day at this brunch
Post # 6
It also depends on your location. In Boston, the only places that do Monday breakfast/brunch (we’re a Sunday wedding) are hotels or fast food places. We definitely don’t want to go the fast food route, but in hotel breakfasts in I’ve literally found 2 real restaurants (not hotels) that offer a decent weekday breakfast and they’re totally out of the way for our guests. Unfortunately, the hotel breakfasts are $25-30/head, so with our large out of town guest count, I think the morning after brunch is too cost prohibitive. We estimate it at up to $1,000 just for breakfast, which seems like a waste of our resources. So, sadly, we’ve decided to most likely skip it.
Post # 7
We’re doing one! Most of our guests are coming from OOT, and we don’t see them often, and we thought it would be nice to keep the celebration weekend going as long as possible.
It will be very laid back and non formal. It will be at a local breakfast landmark – sort of a step-up from a greasy spoon, but not a big step. I am looking forward to the hash, eggs and cheese with an English muffin already!
We won’t host the brunch, but anyone who wants to join us will be invited.
Post # 8
We’re doing one as 95% of the guests are out of town. My grandmother and aunts graciously said they’d like to host it but I’ve done most the planning. Luckily it’s been the easiest thing to plan, we selected a menu ($15/person about) and added it to the website and invite info.
We wanted more time to relax with our guests and thank them for traveling so far so this was the perfect way to keep the fun going. It’s at the clubhouse of a golf course, it’ll be outside on the patio and fairly casual.
Post # 9
FMIL wants to do one but that is all on her. I dont really care either way. I dont think they are necessary really, but it can be nice. I dont think guests would be offended because many people will probably be leaving town anyways or would rather sleep in so I think you will be okay
Post # 10
We’re doing one! We’re inviting both FI’s and my extended families as well as our bridal party and their guests. It is being jointly hosted by my parents and my FILs in the hotel were we got a wedding block (so it will be conveniant for guests). It will be very casual and laid back.
I think it will be a great opportunity to see everyone for a little longer (we live really far away from everyone in TX). Plus, my mom really wanted to have the opportunity to see us open some of our presents (again, since we live so far away).
Post # 11
We’re doing a picnic lunch since our venue is out of town and a lot of guests are family from out of state who we don’t see very often. The guests are staying at either the B&B where the wedding is held or at a neaby inn and both include breakfast with the room rate, so we have decided to do a lunch at a winery before guests leave to go home and will just be serving somethign simple like heros.
I think brunch is a nice idea esp if your family has never met–with the craziness of the wedding your families may not have an opportunity to talk. If you are paying, you should probably just invite immediate family. Otherwise, you can invite all the guests to join. Personally, I am not comfortable inviting people and then handing them a bill…
Post # 12
@Mrs.KMM: How are you going about inviting people? I want to make sure everyone who is staying at the hotel gets invited, but I feel like leaving a note/invitation when they check into the hotel is too late of notice. What if they need to leave by 9am for a prearranged something or other? Maybe like put it on the website or something, but not everyone will check that… ugh I don’t know! How are you handling that part?
Post # 13
@rachelm1083 – We sent out separate invitations for the brunch that went out right around the same time as the wedding invites (a few days after). That way people would get them before making travel plans and could account for the event the next morning.
We weren’t able to invite everyone at the hotel (almost all of our guests are OOT) so we really felt the invites had to be totally separate from other wedding things.
Post # 14
We did one because the hotel where we had our wedding does amazing Sunday buffet brunches.
However, we did not host it. On the info card that was included with our invitations, we told everyone that we would be there at a certain time, and if they wanted to make reservations, I provided the phone number, and the website for pricing information.
We really only had immediately family attend, and some extended family as well. But we also had a small wedding of 75 total. It was fun, though! I don’t think anyone would expect you to pick up the costs of a Sunday brunch.
Post # 15
We’re doing one! My aunt and uncle graciously offered to host 🙂 We’re doing it at a local hotel, and actually got a really great deal on it. It will be pretty laid back — buffet style bacon, sausage, scrambled eggs, toast, assorted pastries, juice, and blueberry pancakes (it is Maine afterall). Oh, and they also threw in one mamosa per guest for free!
I got the cutest (Maine themed) dress to wear to the brunch too! It’s the Anthropologie lobster dress:
Post # 16
My mom is insisting on a brunch at their house. We’re inviting wedding party and immediate family. It will be very casual, an open house for whoever wants to come, really. We are not opening gifts per my request, but that is often an activity. We’re using it as a send off for our out of town guests, and then FI and I will be getting ready for a day-after photo shoot.