Post # 1
I’m trying to decide if it’s worth hosting a day-after brunch. It would be pretty expensive – probably between $600 and $800. But it does seem like a nice way to say a leisurely goodbye to those OOT guests who are still around. Our total wedding budget is $12,000, which we’re just about at right now. We COULD go over – it’s being paid for by our parents, and my mom is willing to spend the extra. But I’m just not sure. That seems like a lot of money to me. I’m guessing something like 1/4 of the guests would come, for a total of 20-25 people.
How important do you think a day-after brunch is? For the record, we’re not hosting any other ancillary parties – the rehearsal dinner is going to just be immediate family.
Post # 3
Also, is it weird that we would be inviting people via email, since invites went out weeks ago?
Post # 4
We had a breakfast the next morning; however, we didn’t pay for it. It was just a large group of us meeting at a local coffee shop where people could get whatever they wanted. It was nice because the weekend went so fast and I didn’t get to spend a lot of time with everyone.
Post # 5
Double post, but it’s not letting me edit my first.
Answer to the second question: our breakfast was organized during our reception, so there were no invites, just word of mouth.
Post # 6
@mightywombat: I probably won’t be having one, but I’ll be busy getting naked. It might be a nice thing though, especially if you were all at the same hotel or something.
As far as invitations go, I think email is fine. When we had to change venue after the invitations had already been sent, we made an evite!
Post # 7
Mr. T’s brother had one, but it was hosted by his grandmother and she cooked everything. It was in her home and it was nice. I wouldn’t spend any extra money if you don’t have to. No one expects you to pay for breakfast for OOT guests.
Post # 8
i loooved our day after brunch! it’s part of the tradition/expectation in my family that you have one, esp since my family is all spread out over the country and so we had tons of out of towners. but it was just really, really nice and laid back. much more low-key than the actual wedding, so we got to actually chat for real with people who’d flown from all over to be there with us.
Post # 9
I picked other… I don’t know if it would be worth spending 600-800… to me that’s a little much when you’ve just spent so much money on the day before. I will probably have family over and will buy a couple of hundred dollars worth of groceries to make brunch.. maybe some bagels etc.. nothing fancy. It will probably take place at my parents place and will be so that we can say goodbye to those that visited from away and that we can spend a little bit of relaxed time as newlyweds with friends and family.
Post # 10
I loved ours. It was so relaxed and just fun to really sit down and talk without someone pulling us away every few minutes. It was awesome.
Post # 11
My sister did this but it was at her MIL’s house. It was just close family and we watched them open some gifts and eat, it was really nice.
I think email and word of mouth is fine for this, it gives you the oppurtunity to make it less formal, which might help you save money.
Post # 12
If you feel you can swing it without feeling uncomfortable over the wallet pinch, I say go for it! Your guests will appreciate the gesture, especially if they’ve traveled a distance to the wedding, and if these are people you’re close to, you’ll probably be glad of the extra time with them – at least, according to several friends who have gotten married – apparently, the reception just FLIES by!
Post # 13
@helenberrycrunch: LOL! I’m with you on that!
I’m trying to avoid doing one, to be honest. My FMIL wants to do gift opening at like noonish, so most of the OOT people will be going to that anyway.
When we were home last weekend, FMIL mentioned going to church Sun. morning and then breakfast to celebrate Mother’s Day and Father’s Day. I realize I get ‘one day’, but seriously? We have room service and a hot tub. And five years of pent-up ‘waiting’ frustration. No way you will see me leave that room before check-out. No. You can see me at the gift-opening. Should be fun when FI tells his parents that (politely) that we will not be joining them that morning. Oh joy.
Post # 14
We had one, we did word of mouth and 2x the number of people showed up as we’d anticipated–whoops. It was fun though, got to chat with people we hadn’t spent as much time with at the reception, and for that alone it was worth it. Plus, I had a breakfast burrito. Yum.
Post # 15
Since our wedding is in October and we’re big football people, we’re talking about renting the basement of our local bar in order to watch the bears game (if there’s actually a season this year!) I plan on providing some bar food and people can buy drinks, if they want.
Post # 16
I don’t think we’re having one. Our budget is already blown and we don’t expect to have all that many guests stay over night anyways (my whole family lives like 15 minutes away). I was thinking about adding some breakfast type foods to the OOT bags though.