(Closed) Morning ceremony, evening reception

posted 9 years ago in Reception
  • poll: How would you feel, as a guest, if there was a late-morning ceremony followed by a dinner reception?
    I would HATE it, what a pain! Get it over with already! : (34 votes)
    63 %
    It would be okay, I guess, but seems kind of odd an unneccesary. : (8 votes)
    15 %
    It would be better than a short, awkward break where I can't go back to the hotel or out for food. : (5 votes)
    9 %
    It would great! I would appreciate a decent break, if we're not going straight into the reception. : (7 votes)
    13 %
  • Post # 3
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2009

    I’m not sure. People have their various opinions about gaps, but most seem to not like them too much…We’re having an 11 am ceremony and then having a nice lunch with really good food, wine and cake afterwards. Then that night we’re having an afterparty at our house with more drinks, food, games, impromtu dancing etc. The afterparty is totally optional, but it’s going to be the PARTY! So, that’s an idea you could play around with. Ultimately though it’s your wedding and you should do what really feels right to you.

    Post # 4
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2009

    My personal feeling is that you’d be asking people to choose between coming to the ceremony and coming to the reception.  I wouldn’t consider that for a 2 hour gap, but I would probably think about it for a 6 hour gap.  I also wouldn’t be surprised if it wasn’t ideal for the bride and groom because you probably wouldn’t really get any down time–I’d just be a 12 hour day where you’d have to be "on" the whole time.

    Post # 5
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    Helper bee

    I think it would be nice to be able to relax a bit in between the ceremony & reception. Out of towners can possibly sightsee/shop. Not everyone who is attending the reception attends the ceremony so it might not be a big problem.

    Post # 6
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2010

    I’d rather have as short a gap as possible.  I’ve found it really hard to get anything done in the gap – I’ve mostly ended up hanging out with other friends who are wedding guests during those gaps.  I say the shorter gap, the better.

    Post # 7
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2009

    I think it could work.  It depends on what there is to do in the area and the personalities of your guests.  I went to a wedding once with a 4 hour break, and a big group of guests got totally trashed at a bar before the wedding and had a blast the entire day.  But there were definately a few grumbles from a few – mostly a cousin or aunt, or the sister in law with several kids (understandable), you know, the normal culprits :).  Personally I didn’t get wasted in between, but still had fun at the bar/restaurants in between.

    Post # 8
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    Helper bee

    Forgot to add that locations of the ceremony and reception site might play a role in your decision. Will the ceremony and reception sites be near each other? Will they be very far for most of your guests? Some people may not want to drive out to both places two times because of the long gap.

    If you do decide to have a gap, make sure you have some entertainment or places for your guests to visit until the reception.

    Post # 9
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    596 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2009 - Ceremony: The Kraine Theatre, Reception: Midtown Loft & Terrace

    I think as a guest I might end up very tired by the time the reception came around and that would be a bummer. I think I’d rather have a shorter gap (like 3 hours, which is still a lot of time for pictures). It’s your wedding, though, and totally up to you!

    Post # 10
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    In my opinion, a longer gap is enough time to relax, change, even take a nap! So I would be refreshed and ready to have a good time. But I’m biased – this is similar to what we’re doing 🙂

    Post # 11
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    It’s totally up to you… it’s your day after all.  But if I was a guest, I would probably miss the ceremony and just go to the reception.  That kind of gap is just way too long for me.  I would have to get dressed up for the ceremony, then take off of my garb for the gap, then get all dolled up again for the reception…  too much hassle in my opinion! 

    Post # 12
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    Blushing bee

    i think it would be odd.  but it might be okay if you arranged some guest activities in between.  is the wedding some place interesting?

    Post # 14
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2009

    We’re skipping the cocktail hour to get pictures taken.  I don’t want to see each other beforehand either.  I think a little over an hour will be enough time, though not entirely sure.  I just have to rely on DOC to move along the family photos to give us some time for just us.  I don’t think you’ll want more than a 30 minute session though.  So hopefully you’d be fine doing it just an hour before if you’ve got some drinks etc. planned.

    Otherwise I would prefer not to have a 6 hour gap between wedding and ceremony, but I do think it’s preferable to just 1 or 2 hours of down time.

    Post # 15
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    I didn’t want to take my photos during the cocktail hour, so we’re planning on taking photos before the ceremony.   I’m not suggesting that for you – but when I asked my photographer how much time we’d need – he said 2 hours max.   Which is really my point – you want lots of photographs…but six hours is probably too much time.   Maybe take three hours, but you don’t want to use all your (and your bridal party’s energy) during the day and not have any energy for the reception!

    Also, as a guest, six hours is just a bit too much time to kill.   Although it’s your day, you want to make sure you’re considerate to your guests and what their ‘ideal’ day would be.  Usually when I’m dressed for a wedding, I want to stay dressed – I wouldn’t be so psyched to get dressed for the ceremony, go to the ceremony, return home/to my hotel to do sightseeing for the day (energy killer!), and then get dressed again to go to the reception.   

    While photographs are really important – talk to your photographer to find out how much time they really need to work with you.  It would be terrible if everyone (you and your guests) were sucked of all your energy by the time you made it to the reception! 

    Post # 16
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: October 2009

    I personally don’t mind the idea – as a bride…however, Im not sure that every guest will like this.  I am actually having a three hour gap myself between the end of the ceremony until the start of cocktail hour.  I wanted plenty of time to take pictures, i have gotten a lot of mixed reviews on this from guests – but mostly everyone is just happy to be included in our day.  I think that if this is what you really want to do, you should do it! I have already made suggestions to guests – they could use the break time to rest, go have a bite to eat, check out local attractions, check into the hotel….etc.  The only thing that you may want to be prepared for is that some people may opt out of the ceremony – but hopefully they won’t! Good luck making a decision!!

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