Post # 1
Maybe I’m just dumb but I have NO idea how the bride and groom are supposed to leave the ceremony – Do you just get up, say goodbye, and drive off? Do you wait for everyone else to go first? Are you suppose to announce it so people can line up to throw rice, or is that in the recessional?
The ceremony will be early (like 9-10am) with the reception at the same place right after. I don’t expect it to last long because there are so few people and there wont be dancing, so I’m guessing 2-3 hours max.
So how do you leave? And how do you communicate that you dont want company? I understand with late night weddings people are gonna wanna go home immediately when it ends because of sleep, but since ours would be done at noon we’ve really got no scapegoat to avoid people. Is it rude to your guests (who drove 5 hours to see you) to only give them 3 hours of your time?
P.S. We’re giving them infor for fun stuff to do around town and we plan to have some sort of welcome event. But directly after the wedding I’d prefer to just spend the day with my new Hubbie and decompress 😛
Post # 3
@MadameLady: I went to an “early afternoon” wedding and the bride and groom had a “send off” with a classic car.
They had us all throw flower petals (I think) while they made their getaway. They then went and took a bunch more pictures before coming back to the hotel for their “wedding night”.
All the guests continued the party at a local bar. Funnily enough, the bride ended up calling me around 9pm because they wanted to keep hanging out after their photos and “wedding night” wrapped up.
Post # 4
@KatNYC2011: I can totally see our guests doing that 😛 Everyone knows each other so I’m thinking our wedding would also be a giant get-together-in-a-new-city for them. I just don’t wanna seem rude…
Post # 5
I would have a ‘send off’. You don’t have to use flowers or rice, if you don’t want to, although, that would be fun. I’ve seen guests line up to make an aisle and cheer the couple through – I’ve also seen that done where they make a bridge (much like a kids soccer game) and the couple runs underneath (although, this could be way too cumbersome if you have a big dress!).
Have a car waiting for you and take off from there. No one will expect you to come back and everyone will know you are ‘gone’ for your honeymoon!
I also may be super clear on the invites and/or wedding website about the events of the wedding. The more clear you can be about the events of the wedding, the better, since it’s a bit of an untraditional format. The clarity will help your guests know what to expect – which will help them avoid any disappointment from expecting to have a longer or different post-ceremony reception.
Post # 6
If you hire a professional photographer, usually he/she does the bossing around. So he’ll tell all the guests to get in front of the church for your sendoff or whatever.
Post # 7
I would hope no matter how far people travelled to be at your wedding they wouldn’t think you guys would want to hang out after the wedding. The welcome event is a nice enough gesture for out of towners. If for some reason they ask just tell them you all have special plans for the rest of the evening.
Post # 8
@MadameLady: It shouldn’t be considered rude at all. In fact, I’m a bit worried my guests will think it weird that FI and I are NOT having a send off.
The venue kicks us out at 10;30 and we may or may not have an after event (haven’t decided yet) but we probably won’t have a “send off” since we want to have the option of going to the after event.
Also, we aren’t going to be going on our honeymoon for a few months.
Post # 9
You might change your mind when it gets closer to and actually want to be around your guests for longer. I had a friend who had a morning ceremony/early afternoon reception and they arranged for an after party (non sponsored) at a bar nearby afterwards.
Post # 10
@moderndaisy: Yeah the wedding isn’t for a long time XP It’s just that this little detail has been stuck in my head for weeks! UGH! It’s so hard not to want to ‘study up’ even if the wedding isnt for 1 1/2 years 🙂