Post # 1
I’m seven weeks pregnant and battling morning sickness. I’m getting better at snacking all day to reduce my nausea, but I have to be pretty selective about what I eat.
I’m a bridesmaid in a wedding in two weeks that will be more than twelve hours long between hair, photos, mass, and the reception. I asked the bride if we’re eating in that time and she told me the groom’s mom is bringing deli meats and local cheeses for a midday meal. The reception has a series of small plates, including soft cheeses, seafood, and rare meats. My doctor says no deli meats, soft cheeses, or rare meats because my pregnancy-reduced immune system leaves me too vulnerable to food poisoning. Seafood is off my menu because of mercury levels.
I don’t want to tell the bride I’m pregnant. I’m worried I’ll get too naseaous if I “eat around” the off-limit foods all day. The restaurant hosting the reception doesn’t allow any outside food. I’ve gone through a lot of hell to become pregnant, so I’m not about to “cheat” on my diet restrictions. I worry the bride will be offended if I bring my own lunch.
Any clever suggestions for staying fed and not raising suspicion that I’m expecting?
Post # 3
Are those the only foods offered at the reception, or are there some options like vegetables and well-cooked meats?
At 10w 5d and still nauseous all the time, I’d carb up in the morning. For lunch, lunchmeat is ok if heated to steaming– could you microwave a sandwich? As far as dinner, if there are some other options as I mentioned above, eat lots of those. I’d stuff my purse with some protein bars, nuts, etc in order to have a backup as well.
Post # 4
@oldmatron: Just say that you are on a new birth control so the nausea is really bad as you are still trying to adjust. The ask if she would mind you bringing your own food so that you can avoid any chance of heaving during the wedding.
Post # 5
@oldmatron: bring snacks in your purse and eat them outside? not sure, hopefully someone else has a better suggestion
Post # 6
@oldmatron: I would say that I’m testing for food allergies and have a very small selection of things I can eat without throwing the tests off. lol or you’re on medication that makes you nauseaus and processed foods seem to make it worse. or bring it in your purse and try to just be very sneaky about it.
Post # 7
@oldmatron: I would talk to the bride. I would hope that she would understand. Especially given the fact that you have tried for a while to concieve. Myself personally, I would never be offended if a friend was pregnant and needed to snack to keep from getting sick….or be offended that you were not able to eat the foods provided. Perhaps she could keep this quiet that you are expecting?
Congratualtions on the pregnancy!! Children are the best blessing any of us could ever ask for.
Post # 8
Can you pack some snacks and eat them discreetly? Unless everyone is literally standing around watching each other eat, I don’t think people will notice that you haven’t touched the small plates. In addition, perhaps they’ll serve crackers/crostinis which are typical served with cheese/meat and worse to worse, you can nibble on those.
Post # 9
I actually had a very expensive multi-course meal at the restaurant that’s hosting the reception last Valentine’s Day. I left very hungry. The portions are tiny. The expectation is that your calories will come from the wine pairings. The meats are all quite rare and the “sides” are like two tiny spears of brandy-braised asparagus. I’m going to trade my husband my meats for his veggies, but I’m still skeptical about getting enough to eat.
I have considered the “new birth control” line to explain snug fits in my bust or any barfing, but I worry the bride might interpret nausea as “drama” or an effort to take attention off her.
I feel so ridiculously stuck. I want to eat to curb morning sickness, but I also can barely zip my dress due to bloating and breast swelling. The foods are all no-nos. The bride is crazy.