(Closed) mortified by how long my thank you's are taking… advice please. :)

posted 5 years ago in Paper
Post # 3
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1571 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

My shower was in September and I am just sending out the thank you cards this week. Between the wedding a couple of weeks later, moving, school, and hurricane sandy (I know it sounds lame, but we went a week without power and have spend the last month just catching up), I just haven’t had the time to get them out before this. I’m sure nobody has even noticed that they haven’t gotten a thank you card yet, and will still be happy to get one!

Post # 4
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1980 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I wouldn’t apoligize– it will just look like you’re making excuses. I actually think 3 months is within the rules etiquette-wise. I’d block off a Saturday morning or something (like TOMORROW) and sit down for 3 or 4 hours and just power through them. Better they be impersonal and hasty than not sent out at all at this point. Also, divide with your husband, he should be sending half of them out for his guests!

Post # 5
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610 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@Sparkle Pony:  I’m sure your guests will understand. I’ve gotten thank-you cards as late as 5 months after the wedding. Many at 2 and 3 months afterwards….life gets crazy and I’ve never held it against anyone! 

Post # 6
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688 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@Sparkle Pony:  I am in the same boat as you. My shower was 3 months ago and did not send one card out yet. I have a good reason because life has just been crazy. I plan on doint them next week and my wedding thank you cards in February to incorporate valentine’s day! 

Post # 8
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750 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

@Sparkle Pony:  In an ideal world, you’d send out two (different) cards for the shower and the wedding. Since your budget doesn’t allow a variety of cards, I would think it’d be better to combine the shower and wedding thank yous than to send two identical cards…I know that I’d feel a little awkward if I got two identical cards, and would probably think it was a mistake on your part! Hopefully some etiquette gurus will chime in as to what’s technically appropriate in this situation πŸ™‚ 

Post # 9
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505 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

It sounds like you’re being really hard on yourself! If you usually write very personal and meaningful thank you notes, it might help to remember that they don’t have to be perfect. If you put less pressure on yourself, maybe it will be easier to get started. I think it’s okay to thank someone for more than one gift in the same card, as long as you acknowledge each gift and how much you appreciate each one.

Post # 10
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610 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

 @Sparkle Pony:  I think @Dialysate is right, I would only send one card and make a point of saying thank you for attending the shower as well in your note. I think that makes the most sense!

Post # 11
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11352 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

There is no need to worry about sending the same style card twice to the same person, because you will be writing two separate notes for two different gifts from two different occasions. Also, do not apologize for the lateness of the cards. Although it is not true that couples have up to a year to send thank-you notes after the wedding, many, many people believe this to be true (and I was one of them prior to joining WB), so very few people will even realize that your notes may end up being “late.” Even those who know all of the rules are so used to seeing so many other people break them that you likely will receive “points” just for making the time and effort to actually send thank-you notes within a reasonable timeframe or, sadly, at all.

Post # 13
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943 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I was having issues too–had problems getting our pics back for the TYs, then was delayed by Hurricane Sandy (photogs had no power for a while) then our photogs ran out of the TYs I wanted, THEN they resized instead of cropped the pic…suffice it to say I posted an “I’m not a slacker, really! Waiting on pics” message on FB and spread the news thru the family grapevine so people didn’t think I forgot.

I got them back on Fri Dec 7, mailed them out Monday Dec 10–all 107 of them. What a relief! So mine were over 3 months–don’t worry, no one cared.

Post # 14
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11753 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Sparkle Pony:  no need to apologize, they’re not THAT late.  Dedicate yourself to doing 3-5 a day.  I know they take forever but you have to be disciplined about it! Also recruit DHs help!

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