Post # 1
So, a little backstory. One of my friend’s got engaged a few months back, and the bride-to-be for this engagement party was more than a little obviously jealous that she wasn’t engaged. She was even a little rude to the newly engaged couple (we all knew at that point she was really giving her boyfriend of two years a hard time to propose ASAP). Her new fiance just sent out the following engagement party invite (he sent it today, via Facebook, for a party that is supposed to take place tomorrow. Oh, and it’s a “surprise” for the bride-to-be) :
Hey everybody, I Know this is short notice but [bride-to-be’s name] was more then a little bummed she did not get to celebrate are engagement with all of you and I think it would be fun to get together and have some drinks and celebrate me eventually losing my virginity on our wedding night. This is a surprise so please don’t tell her and feel free to invite whoever I have missed and you think would like to enjoy some time with us. I figure we can start at [Bar’s name] and have a beer and go from there to any of the other fine establishments in the area after that. Let me know which one everyone is thinking about. Be there by 8 if you can and we will be there by 8:30. I know many of you that I invited can’t make it but I wanted you to feel included and I know [bride-to-be] would be happy to see you. Remember ITS A SURPRISE, and invite friends.
Um… awkward? Would you go, given the backstory?
Post # 3
I don’t normally go anywhere on such short notice. Oh and – this girl is a brat. So, probably not.
Post # 4
DH and I are pretty spur of the moment so I would probably go if we didn’t have plans. I would go to support the guy if you are good friends with him.
Post # 5
is he kidding about the virginity thing?? why would anyone put that in an invitation for a party? awkward! i wouldn’t go because she’s a brat and it’s super short notice.
Post # 6
I wonder if this is really a surprise or if she is making him surprise her lol. If I wasn’t busy, I’d probably go, because the poor guy could use the support. Yes it is a bit awkward (esp the virginity part lol), but if you consider them friends, go and have a drink. If she acts bratty again, leave and you will know what to do with the friendship.
Post # 7
The thing I find awkward is the virginity part… Otherwise, it’s not too bad. I’d go, but I’m a last minute plans sort of person!
Post # 8
- Wedding: September 2015 - Ketchum, ID
@MrsEdamame: I’d decline based on improper grammar alone. Oh, and that girl seems like a super brat, like @futuremrsk18 said. Plus, I don’t drink or like going to bars, so that’s a triple no lol.
Post # 9
@MrsEdamame: What the heck has groom’s virginity got to do with it?? (EDIT: I see, maybe a joke, but still creepy in my book).
But the rest of it is fine and yeah, I’d attend. He wants to cheer her up with a party, what’s wrong with that?
Post # 10
I’d go if I were free. He sounds nice, at least…
Post # 11
It’s awkward, and she sounds like she needs an attitude adjustment. However, I admit that if FI and I got this and were inclined to hit bars, we would go. We enjoy hanging out with friends for spur of the moment things, but I know not everyone is the same.
Post # 12
Am I reading this right? Is this a non-engagement party??
Post # 13
I don’t think it is that awkward. My guess is the virginity part is sarcasm… lost in print. Weird. (oh, wait, that was sarcasm). They should totally have a sarcasm print. Anyway, this would be the epitomy of any of my FH’s invites…. So, we would probably go if we didn’t have something going on. And you never know, maybe the girl was being crabby at the engagement party because of something else.. This is about that type of thing. There seems to be more of a back story than just this.
Post # 14
I should clarify that I’m actually friends with the groom-to-be (not sure if that was clear from my initial post). He’s a nice guy, just thought his invite came across as super awkward. And I don’t know the bride-to-be very well, I just know several of our friends think she’s acting like a complete brat about this whole engagement.
To me, it seems like she has rushed into proposing, and now somehow forcing him to plan her an engagement party. It’s one of those things I wish I could somehow find a way to talk to him about it, and just say “Whoa, what’s the rush?”
Post # 15
@redness82: Added backstory:
The couple has been living together for awhile. They broke up in the spring for awhile, and all of us were told (from him) that it was because she would not let up about wanting him to propose. Essentially, it seemed she was trying to force him into it.
6 months later, they’re back together and now… engaged?
Post # 16
Lol, that is a classic !!
Back story aside… (Waiting Bride meltdown… hey it happens). The rest of it sounds too FaceBook / HS Bitchy Drama stuff for me.
As an Etiquette Snob… lol
I found the rest of it weird.
First off the Groom is clearly throwing a pity party for his Bride (if he was my Groom I’d be annoyed with him in that aspect of the wording)
Second, it isn’t cool as per “traditonal etiquette” wise to throw your own EParty… but I’d forgive that if the Groom had made the Invite more light & fun (modern etiquette and lots of folks including yours truly invited friends out to drinks to celebrate in lieu of a “traditional” EParty
Something along the lines of… and I would have been more apt to say YES we’ll be there
“Well we finally did it… come out and celebrate with us with a few drinks (I’d expect him to pay for said alcohol / bubbly) and it’s a surprise for my beloved Bride-2B”
But the whole bit about the Groom’s Virginity is weird, creepy, over-sharing and inappropriate
I mean seriously… talk about one’s sex life in real life with people you know is just a big no-no
So on those grounds… Hubby2B is an embarrassment to the poor girl
I wouldn’t be going to this event, and try to spare her some face in an awkward situation, which includes a bunch of people screaming SURPRISE