Post # 1
Are there any vows or parts of that you’ve come across that you absolute love and knew you wanted to include within your own? Any beautiful phrases or promises? I love the statement ” I will have no greater love than you” and also ” thank you for marrying me” . I know it’s really personal and some people hate some ideas that others love. Do you have any favourites ? Any stand outs? I would love to hear!
Post # 2
We used Mrs apple’s hand ceremony. I still tear up when I read them.
Here is a link to the Hand Ceremony
Post # 4
Honestly, I love traditional vows the most. I’m probably in the minority, though.
Post # 5
Some of the most beauitful vows I have heard are vows that are said and worded in such a way that it is clear that the person who is saying them thinks of the vows as actions to be done instead of emotions to be felt.
The problem with vows that most people think are “beautiful” or “romantic” is that the things being vowed can’t actually be promised. These vows are usually based on emotions, and that’s a problem because emotions wax and wane. Most people cannot promise to feel something for an extended period of time, or to not ever feel something — like a greater love for another person. Oftentimes, there really is no way to know whether these vows are actually being kept, and that makes the vow nearly, or completely, worthless.
Instead of looking for vows that are “beautiful” because of how they sound, look or come up with vows that that have to do with character qualities, like integrity, patience, respect, attentiveness, and dependability. Make sure these are qualities you value. If one applies these qualities to their behavior and marriage, they will be doing something that can be seen, that there will likely be evidence of, and that actually has a positive effect on the marriage. And these qualities can be worded in a beautiful way that will have everyone in attendance sniffling and wiping away tears.
These qualities (the qualities you pick for yourself, that is) will help to create a stable foundation, from which all of those lovely emotions can grow and thrive if, of course, you’re spouse is on the page with the same, similar, or complementary qualities.
Post # 6
Oy, if I could edit my previous comment, I would. I see a few errors that I would like to fix.
Anyway, I forgot to add that if you do what I suggested in my previous comment, make sure to say that you will “do your best” to apply these character qualities to your behavior and the marriage.
Obviously, one cannot guarantee that they will always be patient, for example, but they can say that they will try. I’m sure there’s a nicer way to word that if you put it in your vows, but I can’t think of what that way would be.
Post # 7
“With this hand, I will lift your sorrows.
Your cup will never be empty, for I will be your wine.
With this candle, I will light your way into darkness.
With this ring, I ask you to be mine.”
They’re from a the movie “Corpse Bride”. I’m not a Tim Burton fanatic and I only saw half the movie, but I loved those vows! It might be silly, I know…
Post # 8
- Wedding: June 2014 - Gold Hill Gardens
I love that handfasting ceremony . . . And I am loving these vows. They’re from here: http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/dating-decisions/201401/ten-research-based-wedding-vows
1. “I promise to respect, admire, and appreciate you for who you are, as well as for the person you wish to become.”
2. “I promise to support and protect your freedom; because although our lives are intertwined, your choices are still yours alone.”
3. “I promise to seek a deep understanding of your wishes, your desires, your fears and your dreams.”
4. “I promise to always strive to meet your needs; not out of obligation, but because it delights me to see you happy.”
5. “I promise to be there for you when you need me, whenever you need me.”
6. I promise to nurture your goals and ambitions; to support you through misfortune and celebrate your triumphs.
7. “I promise to keep our lives exciting, adventurous, and full of passion.”
8. “I promise to persevere when times get tough, knowing that any challenges we might face, we will conquer them together.”
9. “I promise to treat you with compassion over fairness, because we are a team, now and for always.”
10. “I promise to show you, every day, that I know exactly how lucky I am to have you in my life.”
Post # 9
I will be writing my own vows for my October wedding. I have not begun yet but I know I want to include, “we only have one life to live and I choose to spend the rest of mine with you”….or something along those lines.
Post # 10
Rhopalocera: thank you for your opinion. I do agree in that I too feel vows should be made realistically. I guess individual vows are derived from different ideals.
hyzenthlay: they are each fantastic! 2 and 10 stand out for me.
WestToBlan: what a beautiful way to end your vows!
Post # 11
I love the idea of the traditional vows also so we are reading short “love letters” to each other first and then reciting the traditional vows. I’ve seen some tear jerking quotes on pinterest (some may even be from movies) that are just amazing…I’ve also noticed some song lyrics that are really something special also.
“I vow to help you love life, to always hold you with tenderness and to have the patience that love demands. To speak when words are needed and to share the silence when they are not. To live within the warmth of your heart and always call it home. I vow to fiercely love you, in all your forms, now and forever. I promise to never forget that this is a once in a lifetime love. I vow to love you and no matter what challenges might carry us apart we will always find a way back to each other.”<br />I think that is from the movie “The Vow”.
“I take you to be my best friend, my faithful partner and my one true love. I promise to encourage you and inspire you and to love you truly through good times and bad. I will forever be there to laugh with you, to lift you up when you are down and to love you unconditionally through all of our adventures in life together.”<br />I don’t think these are from anything published.
Post # 12
tksjewelry: Oh wow! This hand ceremony just took my breath away! I literally just texted my officiant and said scratch the personal vows…we need to do this! Thanks for sharing 🙂
Post # 13
I love the hand ceremony, its so beautiful, I want to use it at my ceremony
Post # 14
justjade: I can’t believe I’m about to say this, but the bachelor wedding between Sean and Catherine, Catherine had one of the most beautiful vows http://www.wetpaint.com/sean-lowe/articles/2014-01-26-catherine-giudici-wedding-vows-bachelor
This line captivated me the most:
I promise to love you until after my heart bursts. I promise to love you after our children are old and gray, I promise to love you after we can’t even remember our own names. I will still know how fully I have loved you.
Post # 15
Barely_Blush: how wonderful! They are beautiful.