Most irritating things wedding guests did/do

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
671 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

A lot of people just didn’t RSVP, the ones who said yes, half didn’t show, the ones who didn’t respond did show. That wasn’t the biggest deal, I know my family and expected it. What got to me though, now I’m a kid friendly person as was our wedding. I have a five year old and all the kids invited are close with my child, the issue was that not one guest took it upon themselves to keep an eye on their child (and it was a dry wedding for religious purposes). The kids were making a HUGE mess with everything, running about even during the speeches onto the stage, just going crazy. If it were my home I wouldn’t have minded but the fact that it was at our church and I got lectured over it on the wedding day kinda ticked me off. My child was behaved, she knows better. But most of the kids were just too wild and the parents just let them do whatever. We had a kids table and I was the one who had to round up the kids and get them at the table and the moment I turned my back they were all over the place again. I bring this up with the parents and they just shrugged it off

Post # 4
3016 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014 - Prague

@Mrslovebug:  Ohhhh that is very irritating. I am now pre-irritated b/c I know some of the kids coming to my wedding have pretty lax parents and can get super crazy. Ugh. I better start thinking of something. 

Post # 5
3089 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

My guests were pretty good overall.  My only minor annoyance was I invited one of my mom’s friends and her husband.  Instead of bringing her husband she brought some random friend of hers whom I had never met.  When I went to introduce myself the lady was kind of rude.  Other than that, everything was great.

Post # 6
6958 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

@mandyhartwell:  I was at a wedding a few weeks ago and these two young people (maybe older teens or very early 20s) went to the dessert table before anyone else and loaded up their dessert plates so much they had to cup their hands around the sides. When they put the plates down the desserts literally spilled out onto the table! Ok- there was plenty for everyone but come on! you are seated like 20 feet from the table. You can go back for more after other people have a chance!

Post # 7
1140 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013 - Ontario, Canada

Our guests were great, including the kids, apart from one couple who were a no show which was pretty annoying since we had a 50 people wedding, and their excuse was really lame (And came by Facebook email a few days later) 


Post # 8
599 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

It wasnt my wedding but at my sisters she had guests invite more guests, not plus ones but other extended family members or third cousins that we didnt know about were coming. It was like the snowball effect of people inviting people and they kept coming in. It was really annoying good thing it was night weather and we just moved the bar outside to the patio area at venue. The good part was they all stayed after to help clean up and we were out of there before she could get changed out of her dress. I mean there was a lot of extra people but everything ended up being cleaned, everyone seemed to get enough to eat, stuff packed up into cars and hauled to their house and the place was spotless when we left.

Post # 9
1568 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@mandyhartwell:  Not my wedding but someone at a friend of mine’s wedding was wearing a bright white sequin covered tube top mini club dress. There was nothing left to the imagination as I know that she was wearing a green thong with hearts on it. (I have the same one and have since never worn it) it was really gross. Honestly out of everything in my friends wedding that is the biggest thing I remember and some of the ceremony I dont even know what kind of dress his bride was wearing. (I was not wedding planning at that time lol)

Post # 10
1102 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

i have not had my wedding yet but the worst thing ever happened at a close friend of mine’s  i was her moh  




so basicly one of her 2 of her friends go so drunk they had sex at the gazebo where she said her vows she was furious when she found out … she said like it wouldnt have been a big deal for them to hook up (everyone for the most part had hotel rooms) she was just outraged they had sex on the spot she said her vows she said it ruined her day 


Post # 11
7630 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

Two guests picked up their chairs and place settings and then moved them to another table. I’m not sure why sitting with his son and his grandchildren wasn’t ok with him. It was alright though, I just felt bad for the caterers. How did the guests not know that’s not how it works? 

Post # 12
172 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Hmm… I had several rude guests but nothing that kept me from having a good time.


I don’t really get along with my husband’s brother’s girlfriend but, at the same time, I really don’t know her very well.  (Long story.) We didn’t invite significant others of ANY family members but he brought her anyways. Not too big of a deal but she came, sat in the front, and literally danced right next to me to almost every song and made sure she was very visible throughout the night. On top of that, she didn’t have the courtesy to say congrats or hi or anything. Not once. On top of that, because she was in the front/next to me the entire night, she is in all of my pictures! Blah. Am I being catty and petty? YES. But it was my wedding day.


The rest of his family decided to take EVERY table in the front. All of my family and friends were banished to the back and corners (including my parents). Somehow the bride’s parents table was not where I asked for it to be. I don’t think his family did it on purpose but, if he and I went to one of his cousin’s weddings, we wouldn’t beeline to the tables that are front and center.


Guests brought uninvited guests, including children (we only invited our nieces and nephews). A couple of the young kids at our wedding spent half the evening running back and forth and sliding across the dance floor, even when we were doing specific dances. I am glad they had a good time and wanted them to dance if they wanted (we even played a few kid-friendly songs!) but I didn’t want them sliding into my legs during the anniversary dance. It was annoying and I thought their parents were incredibly rude for not asking their kids to take a break for a little while.


One of the WORST offenses (again, with my husband’s friends and family) is that they started eating strawberries OFF OF THE GROOM’S CAKE before it was even served! Not only incredibly rude but gross! Also, I spotted one of the young guests previously mentioned eating straight from the serving bowl! Gross and embarrassing!


I put a lot of planning and thought into my wedding- most of that in terms of how things “look” or what my in-laws would think of it. I was really disappointed in their lack of etiquette or courtesy that day.


Post # 13
3813 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo

Nothing really, except someone (I don’t know who!!!) took a part of our diy centerpieces that we took measures to prevent people from taking (as in had waiters pysically remove them from the centerpieces and set them aside).

Ooo eta one of my friends brought out nice cigars to share with my DH… but I am really against smoking and have forced DH to quit… of course I did not complain at all or stop him from doing it, but it certainly irritated me a bit…

Post # 14
373 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

We chose to have a completely child free reception and made it well known both through word of mouth and on our wedding website. We addressed our invitations and marked our RSVP cards to make it very clear that only adults were invited. We got word that two families planned to show up with their kids and even after we expressly communicated to these people tha children were not invited or welcome at the reception…they showed up with their kids anyway -_-

Post # 15
6455 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

I was definitely irritated at the no shows. We haven’t talked to any of them since and they never called/wrote to let us know why they didn’t make it.

Outside of that I only had one small annoyance… We were packing everything up for the night and we had a cooler in our hotel room that my parents took to their car to bring back to their house. One of DH’s cousins trailed us around asking if we had any beer in the cooler and if he could have it (after a full open bar all night!). It was just really strange because we told him no and he kept asking us to open it.

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