Post # 1
Hello busy bees,
I got to thinking today about what TRULY is important on your wedding day; where should you “splurge” and what different elements of your day will secure the most enjoyable time had by all?
Is it the dress? Is that what people will be talking about?
What about the Music? Food? Decor??
So many things to consider, and as a bride on a budget I’m curious to get your opinion so I can make sure extra attention (and possibly $$) is spent on these elements of my big day!
Post # 3
I would say food. I don’t always remember the food in vivid detail, but when it’s bad I always remember it (and not in a good way).
Post # 4
probably the food and bar. one of the best things about my venue is the quality of the food, its incredible.so many weddings give really terrible food
Actually its the venye itself thta is the memorable part of mine. you walk down a spiral pathway lit with candles into a natural cavern converted into a restaurant/event space. and they put floating candles in the underground river etc. This is with basic decor, but you can really jazz it up. I love the high ceilings
music is the next most improtant thing for me – i think live bands give a better atmosphere than DJs
Post # 5
We had a really wonderful liturgy with beautiful music!
Darling Husband and I are Catholic and had a full Mass, but we both have relatives and friends who are not, and it was really important to us that it be a beautiful, warm, welcoming and inclusive ceremony. We know that a lot of people get impatient with the length of Catholic weddings and bring a lot of baggage in terms of attitudes toward and past experiences with the Catholic church.
Our priest was young, energetic, very personable, and he gave a *great* homily – everyone was laughing and smiling. And the music blew everyone away! We had a choir of about 20 singers, a flutist, a violinist, a cellist, an organist and a guitarist (I have lots of musician friends) and they sounded like angels. We were in a church with absolutely phenomenal acoustics, too – the place just reverberated, it was glorious! And at Communion time, everyone was invited to come forward and receive a blessing, whether or not they were taking Communion. So many people came up and told us how much they appreciated all those aspects of the service.
Post # 6
People kept talking about the food, dj, and how beautiful the reception hall was. It was important to me to pick a beautiful venue. It was important to my husband to find a good photographer. Of course it was important to me to look gorgeous, but if you want to please your guests, you need great food and great music!
Post # 7
Ceremony. So I voted “atmosphere”.
Post # 8
Ceremony! Seconded by photography. Neither of those are up there. 🙂
The reception/food/weather/dancing/whatever could bomb as far as I care. As long as I marry my man and have some pictures of it, I’m good!
Post # 9
There are 3 from my wedding.
The first would be the culture. My husband is Macedonian and we had a traditional Orthodox ceremony and a LOT of Macedonian dancing, and customs like the pig dance and the bread dance.
And second would be how my husband bawled like a baby when he first saw me and his sniffles during the entire ceremony. There was no one dry eye in that church and that’s all my friends and family talked about for weeks!
The third would be me falling. My husband and I fed each other cake and hus best friend JOhn was yelling “Shove it in her,man! she deserves it!” behind my husband the entire time. So I grabbed a hand full of cake and smashed it in his friends face. I then tripped over my undone hem and fell right on my ass. Literally. Then I got up and my husband smahsed cake in my face haha.
After that, thats all ANYONE could talk about and a few ffriends and family got pics of it (as well as my photographer) and they went around sharing them haha. Embarassing yes, but so so so funny.
Here is the pro pic of my lovely fall with my husbnd crakcing up and his friend with cake all over haha.
Post # 10
I say ceremony too so I didn’t vote.
Post # 11
Didn’t vote cause I believe the ceremony is the most important part. I mean without that, you are just bascially having a really nice party.
Post # 12
Well I want to look damn awesome so dress is pretty important. But I want it to be a really good fun time so atmosphere and music cover that.
Another thing that isn’t in your poll but is super important to me is photography – those last way past the one wedding day.
Post # 13
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
I have to break this one down 2 ways
1. Things that are the most memorable to me from that day, in order of occurrence-
- Being surrounded by my favorite ladies in the bridal suite, laughing and enjoying getting pretty together
- The cream puffs that a good friend stayed up late into the night to make for me
- Feeling like the most stunning woman on the face of the planet. Seriously, mad props to my dress designer, seamstress, hair stylist, and make-up artist. I felt like a goddess.
- Our ceremony, particularly the unscripted parts.
- The 15 minutes immediately following the ceremony when Mr. LK and I were alone, grinning like fools
- The bacon wrapped scallops at our cocktail hour
- The server who was assigned to Mr. LK and I to assure that we had a steady stream of food and drinks all night long
- Our DOC pulling me off to the side to give me a sneak peek of our reception area all decorated
- Sitting at the head of the table, holding Mr. LK’s hand while the joyous faces of our friends and family beamed back at us in glittering candlelight. I can still close my eyes and picture that moment.
- The toasts
- Our first dance, totally unplanned and so much fun.
- Scotch and cigars under the pergola just hanging out with our friends
- Talking late into the night with some friends who we don’t get to see often and having one of Mr. LK’s best friends welcome me to “the family”
2. Things our guests still talk about, in no particular order-
- How nice it was to have such a small group and have lots of time to catch up with people
- The food
- The alcohol
- The venue
- Teen LK’s toast
Post # 14
@lovekiss: that gave me chills. It sounds perfect 🙂
@JemmyGee: that’s too funny. Maybe it is the spontaneous things that will stand out in everyones minds. I won’t be as worried if something goes terribly wrong/funny. Maybe it will be the highlight of the evening haha!
SORYY EVERYONE — for not including Ceremony. In my mind that kind of fell under “atmosphere because my ceremony and reception have a romantic theme and I want that mood to carry through the night.
But I will definitely keep my ceremony in mind. I think it’s the most important thing as well, but then the food, music, and atmosphere of the reception! And we feel like royalty in our dresses. everything is important lol.
Thanks ladies!! I love hearing your opinions!! Especially those of you who have had your weddings and can give opinions based on past experiences!
@newname_99: that venue is stunning. It’s breathtaking, wonderful choice of venue. I’ll be talking about it and I wasn’t even there lol!!!
Post # 15
We spent a lot of time finding the exact right vendors and then letting them do what they do so we didn’t have to stress on the big day. Our DJ was wonderful and pretty much ran our reception and made it so much fun, and the coordinators at our venues had a lot of experience and were able to guide us through every aspect of the day.
Not having to stress on your wedding day, run around setting things up or coordinating anything, and just being able to revel in how everything feels — that is worth gold.
When I think back to my wedding, I think most of the walk down the aisle and how beautiful the fall day was. I also think about what a blast my reception was.
I do think the dress is important because I like the way I look in photos and it’s the first thing I see, plus music is really essential because it sets the mood for both the ceremony and reception. Food and decor were much less important than I thought, though I’m glad we sprang for some mood lighting.
Post # 16
- Wedding: September 2014 - Lodge
I would splurge most on my attire and food. I think those are two of the most important. But I think overall atmosphere is what I’m focusing on. Everything I’ve picked/decided on has focused on the overall atmosphere and theme of the wedding.