Most of FI's side might not come?!

posted 2 years ago in Family
Post # 2
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I recommend calling everyone and/or sending your RSVPs out early.  We know that most of my SO’s family wouldn’t make it to the wedding unless we had it where we live (and his mom’s side lives), but 75% of our family is a day’s drive away.  We’re choosing domestic destination to keep all numbers down since we’re paying for it 100% on our own and to keep only close family and friends (I have 60 people on my mom’s side alone).  However, my SO is still worried even his mother, father, or older sister won’t show up… But disappointment from his immediate family is sadly something he expects and is pretty used to. But this is what we’re planning after we’re engaged:

  1. Calling everyone on our guest list when we get engaged to let them know the plan.
  2. Send STDs 10 months prior.
  3. Send invitations 4 months prior and ask for RSVPs back 2 months prior to invite others who didn’t make the primary list but will still come (in case we run below our minimum).

Our primary guest list is 41, and we’re expecting 20 (also the minumum for the venue).  Good luck!

 

Post # 4
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2566 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

RhianfaHW:  It’s funny, because he has such low expectations for his family, but he’s inviting many more friends than me 😉  I just have fewer close friends since I’ve been moving around a lot the past 6 years, and he’s known his friends forever. I’m thinking everything will even out, even if his family is being kind of sh**ty.  I still have hope for them, though.

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