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Well, my wedding is one month away from today! I feel like I'm under more stress now than the beginning even though most things are done! I just have little things to figure out and lots left to pay off (which is the stressful part)! I did have a few bumps though that were HORRIBLE!

First bump was when my FMIL got upset that we were getting married... my fiance isn't that close to his mom and he hadn't discussed it with her before popping the question (we live together too, so it can't have been a total surprise). She was also mad because I haven't finished school yet, mad that we didn't tell her, but that wasn't even true! See, his mom doesn't speak English very well, at all, but when we got back home after he proposed to me, she saw us come in the door and asked why were so happy and I held my ring out for her to see. She went back to her room and got her glasses and I'm not sure what she said because it was in Chinese. Then when FSIL got home, their mom asked her what the ring was about and she told them (her chinese is better than my fiance's). So either way, it ended up with A LOT of yelling, most of which I had no idea what was going on because it was in Chinese and then is mom eventually leaving going god knows where. It was dark and it was fairly late, so we had to go out looking for her. She eventually came home and by the next day it was almost as if nothing happened... That night htough, I almost felt like we wouldn't be able to get married and that we'd have to call it off...

Then, the other stressful event was with MY mom. My parents are divorced but I invited my dad and I wanted him to walk me down the isle. Well my mom just had a HUGE fit about it. I understand that my dad was a HORRIBLE husband, and that he hasnt been in our lives much at all for the past few years (I was hoping this would be a chance to just forgive everything and move on). Eventually she basically said "if he's coming then he has to help pay" and the way she worded it made it seem like if he didn't help pay (which I knew he wouldnt because he's very very poor) that she wouldn't help either. I just felt like it was a very horrible thing for a mother to threaten her daughter in such a way over something she can't even control! So yeah, lots of tears then too.

And, if THOSE were bad, I lose my engagement ring!! It was the day after New Year's Day and I had just gotten out of the shower and was going to put lotion down and I looked down at my hand to take it off and it was gone! I didn't freak out yet though and decided I'd check the bathtub though I was pretty sure I would have heard it if if fell, but I knew there is no way it could have gone down the drain because we had a trap thing, which I had cleaned just after my shower and I would have noticed it in there. I figured it was in the bed and came off when I was sleeping because it used to happen to me all the time as a little girl. But, after a TON of searching the whole apartment and completely taking the bed apart, it was no where to be seen. I just broke down and could barely stop crying the whole day. I'd stop a little, but then it would come to my mind again and it would start again. My fiance reassured me how much he loved me and that we were still going to get married (which was exactly what I needed to hear!). I thought he'd be way too mad at me to want to marry me because I know how much the ring cost (way more than the 3 months paycheck rule!) and I was just devastated. FINALLY the ring showed up about 2 weeks later in a cabbage... No lie! I made stuffed cabbage New Years Day because it's supposed to be good luck to have cabbage that day (HA!). I didn't use all the cabbage and stuck the rest in the fridge and while I was chopping it up to use for dinner that night, the ring just suddenly appeared! Ugh! I had just about given up on finding it too, even though I knew it HAD to be in the house because I hadn't gone anywhere for about 2 days before I lost it. I was about to buy a wedding band too, which would have been no good because since I gave up on finding my ring, I was going to just go with white gold instead of platinum.

As for actual PLANNING the wedding, the seating char has been the most stressful!

What has stressed you guys out the most?

Yeah, I'm not stressing about those anymore, just reflecting and comparing earlier stresses to current stress (and I hadnt heard of weddingbee until just recently, unfortunately). Things have all been resolved with family. Like I said, the next day came and my FMIL acted like nothing happened... Idk, sometimes she just flips out (though I had never seen or heard her that bad before). My mom got over the whole thing too. Yeah, my dad isn't able to help pay (and he lost his job soon after he was asked and hasn't been able to find one since). But I think my mom came to her senses to realize the day would go on without her and she does want to be a part of it. I do have a great relationship with my mom though, but that doesn't mean things like that can't happen. My dad is walking me down the isle and my mom is meeting us at the end so they can both give us me away :) As for the relationship between my FMIL and me, well it's as good as it can be considering we don't speak the same language I suppose.

Feel free to laugh about finding the ring in a cabbage, I know I laughed! I was in complete disbelief. Originally I thought it was my right hand ring that somehow fell off and I was like "again?!?" (I've NEVER lost this ring and it's never fallen off, but with the e-ring gone...) but i quickly realized it was the e-ring. I told my fiance that a lot of women lose their rings, but I bet none of them have lost it in a cabbage! To this day I still don't know how it happened, but as long as I have it that's fine by me.