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My utterly insane family.
They specialize in ruining others happiness. In the end, they didn't come to the wedding and that was definitely for the best.
having everyone's input in my brain! we're planning a traditional Greek Orthodox wedding (FI is Greek). i just converted/was baptized in the spring, and it's a lot to deal with...his huge, opinionated family and my quiet one, trying to find a happy balance
The photographer flop... when our friend decided not to be our photographer... and then all photographers that we wanted were long ago booked for our date. That caused a couple of crying nights in a row... or maybe a few weeks... since we hadn't budgeted for it at all.
I have to agree with Bellini: everyone's input. no matter if they mean it to be nice, helpful, or just plain mean, having too much input (and conflicting input at that) is stressful!
I'm right where you were. I had a total melt-down on the phone with my mom today. I've been engaged a few weeks, we're in budget limbo kind of... and we can't find a place that is cheap enough that I like. I just want to have a venue, a date, and a budget. I will make everything else work!! After my crying on the phone I had to call FI to go shopping with me and calm me down a bit. He asked what he could do and I told him he could help me with the venue search and he is! Within 2 hrs of getting home he had 2 places for us to look at. I"m so happy to have his help. :)
I think the biggest issue I have is budget and going hand in hand with this...the guest list/count. Ugh :(
THE GUEST LIST!!! It started at 100, grew to 130, and kept going and going and going...Until it stopped at 247. UGH.
LOTS of those guests were from my husband's side of the family. Thankfully, his parents ended up "paying for their guests" which really resulted in them picking up the rest of the bill for the reception that my parent's contribution didn't cover.
Also included in the guest list issues were who got to bring a date. Some of my college friends got offended that they couldn't bring their flavor of the month...I'm sorry, but when you're paying $100+ a head, every random mouth counts! GRRR.
for us our biggest fight - most stress has been over having kids at the wedding. I dont necessarily want them but know my dad's family will flip out. Since my parents are paying for the wedding, I don't want my parents to bear the brunt of the anger, so I just said "lets have kids there" and we will provide entertainment. my fiancee is really unhappy about the whole thing.
Also, trying to balance my fiancee's outlandish desires (laser show) with what will be important. I don't want to shoot him down.
Probably planning a wedding on the other side of the country. That and not having any help from my family, at all
Our wedding venue was stunning, but the owners of the property should NOT be dealing directly with the public. LOL. He's a dentist by profession and she's a caterer, which is how they got into the business, but she was absolutely abysmal at communication. We had a big blow up over charges when everything was said and done, all due to her forgetfulness, disorganization, and pure flightiness. I don't regret getting married there -- the venue was perfect for us -- but she caused me so much stress because I never knew what she would forget next or what wouldn't get done according to plan.
Certain family members causing drama the last 2 weeks before our wedding (e.g. my MIL trying to invite her neighbor after we told her not to, and even still she gave the neighbor her invite and told her that we said to give it to her! Or not seeing my sister for a couple months before the wedding and like 2 weeks before the wedding day, suprise, she's 5 months pregnant and her dress didn't fit!, etc.) They are lucky I didn't kick any of them, lol. Seriously, though, it caused quite a few arguments, stress, and sleepless nights.
Mine is going to seem so stupid but to be honest.... the importance of it weighs on me just as heavily as all these other things have on you all.
The Music. Here's why. Both FH and I are musically inclined. In fact he studied Saxaphone as his major in college and I sang for awhile. Music is our tvs or movies or whatever. It's always on in the house and we use music to relate to our situation. If I can't put into words how I'm feeling, I'll play a song or a cd to get it across. It's a huge part of how we communicate.
Example - my favorite musical is Miss Saigon. FH has learned that if I have Disc 1 of Miss Saigon on I am happy - if I have Disc 2 then I am sad and we are in for a night of crying.
FH and I have been through hell and back. We have been through illness, disability, mutual job losses, getting in a home, losing our home d/t family issues, miscarriage, him accepting my child as his own, being together, being apart, and the list goes on and on.
So as you could see, picking the right song for each and every moment of our wedding is incredibly important to us. We dont have A SONG because we use music to portray our feelings all the time - well we have a song but Lets Get it On is hardly first dance worthy...
So the biggest problems I have is our First Dance - we just cannot find a song that actually spells out our story and truly encompasses the true depth of feelings we have for eachother...
And his song for his mom... he's not exactly starting to look right now and not knowing what it'll be is stressing me out like crazy. Every day I am offering him songs and each time he listens.. says maybe and unpauses the TV.
Silly but stressful as all heck. I am on leave from work right now because of a sprained ankle *visiting nurses have to be able to walk* so I am here all day every day looking for the perfect song... it's exhausting.
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By far, the worst part/most stressful part of wedding planning for us was establishing the budget and choosing the venue (since the venue largely dictated the budget). I just hated those first few months of planning where we were unsure of where the money was going to come from (we ended up paying for 1/2 of the reception and my parents the other half).
What was the most stressful portion of planning for you?