Post # 1
I’m having lots of trouble finding examples of “non-religious” Jewish ceremonies online. I’m wondering if someone can tell me when the wine blessing/drinking usually occurs? Is it the first thing? Or at the end? Or does it not matter?
I am Jewish, FH is half, but wasn’t raised Jewish (or anything really). We’re having a civil/non-religious officiant, so not a rabbi – so we’re free to write the rules ourselves. It’s not exactly “interfaith”, because there is NO other faith involved. We will be doing a chuppah, kiddush, breaking of glass… no other Hebrew prayers.
Right now my main question is about the wine like I said above, but would also love to hear from other Jewish brides who had “make-your-own-ceremonies” like this. What did you incorporate, and what was your order of everything?
Post # 3
We’re having a partially Jewish ceremony as well. I am not Jewish (am not religious AT ALL), but Fiance is, and it was important to him to incorporate parts of a Jewish ceremony into our secular ceremony. We are not drinking the wine, but will have a chuppah, ketubah, and breaking the glass. Our ceremony is:
Signing of the Ketubah (we’re having the Judge explain the purpose of the Ketubah, then read the text while we sign it during our ceremony)
Exchange of Rings
Breaking of the Glass (after the Judge says:)
“As we all know, the world is not a place of shalom, of wholeness and peace. The world has been shattered into fragments by violence and injustice. As we hear the glass shatter, we are reminded of this shattered world, and of the power your love has to make the world a better place, to heal some of those fragments.”
Pronouncement of Marriage
Post # 4
@hotchocolate: One good resource is to read Anita Diamant’s A New Jewish Wedding, if you’re looking for more information on Jewish weddings. It tells you the standard practice for the ceremony, the ketubah signing, the drinking of the wine, everything! It could give you a good idea of why some of the things are done at Jewish weddings, to help you decide what aspects you want to incorporate, and what aspects you’d rather not include.
Post # 5
There are at least three blessings over wine at a Jewish ceremony (though we’ll have four because our wedding falls on Havdalah). There is a blessing during the Erusin part of the ceremony http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Erusin (right before the ring exchange). There is also a blessing over wine during the sheva brachot which occurs during the Kiddushin part of ceremony. Last, there is a blessing over wine as part of the birkat hamazon — grace after meals.
Post # 6
i’m not doing the wine bit at all, so i can’t help you, but we are doing interfaith. a lot of ours obviously won’t apply to you, but it may give you some ideas. we are doing:
-officiant welcoming, including explanation of the symbolism of the chuppah
-catholic new testament reading (catholic)
-sheva brachot (jewish)
-sign of the peace (catholic)
-breaking of the glass (jewish)