Post # 1
Does my mom’s dress need to be the same level of fanciness as my fiance’s mother’s? My mom and my fiance’s mom are a study in opposites. They’re both smart, wonderful, and caring women, but their sense of fashion couldn’t be more different. My mom is most comfortable in dockers and dansko clogs, and couldn’t really care less about fashion as long as it is comfortable. My mother in law to be, however, moved my future sister in law into her apartment wearing four inch leapord print heels.
My mom hates shopping, and has ordered a few dresses to try from places like Macy’s and Nordstrom’s, but hasn’t found anything she’s in love with. She told my mother-in-law to go ahead and buy her dress. My mom is looking at navy, so really my fiance’s mom had pretty free reign.
Here’s what she chose:
She is planning on shortening it to a pencil skirt, but otheriwse this is how it will look. It is a lovely dress, and looks great on her, but now she’s very worried. All of the dresses my mom had looked at were much simpler, and she’s afraid she is going to be too fancy compared to what my mom will be.
Is this something to worry about? Most of the dresses my mom likes are the all over lace type. She’s not comfortable in anything super fancy, and definitely won’t go towards sequins without quite a push.
Should I be worried? Does anyone have any suggestions, or is this a non-issue and I can reassure my future mother-in-law that it won’t be a problem, no matter what my mom picks.
Post # 3
As long as your mom is fine, I wouldn’t worry about it. Your mother an d FMIL have 2 different styles. I think whatever makes both of them feel good is fine!
Post # 4
@bridesmomma: I totally agree. Let them each wear what suits them. Usually the two mothers aren’t side by side much so it doesn’t really matter.
Post # 5
That would be awesome! One Mom in lace, the other in beads! Contrasting. I love it!
My MIL wore a sleeveless floor-length purple knit dress with a V-neck, and my Mom wore a cap sleeved knee-length blue and white Ralph Lauren faux wrap dress.
Post # 6
Lovely dress! Your mom will look best in a dress in which she feels comfortable. I wouldn’t worry about comparing the two.
Post # 7
All over lace in Navy sounds nice and plenty dressy. I don’t think sequins would necessarily out-compete lace, or vice versa. As long as they are both comfortable, that is what matters!
Post # 8
@jpr: Do we have the same mom lol? To answer your question, no, they don’t have to wear equally fancy dresses. Whatever makes them feel most confident is what they should wear.
Post # 9
Thank you so much for your reassurances. I’ll pass them along to my fiance’s mom. Honestly my mom doesn’t care one way or the other. This is the dress that right now she’s leaning towards, although I think we’ll keep looking when I go home for Christmas.
Dress 72259 from the Watters Collection 20 line
Post # 10
@jpr: I think that navy dress is perfect. With a bit of bling in a necklace and some great shoes, your Mom will be stunning.