- 7 years ago
- Wedding: October 2012
So here’s the deal. My parents are traditional Christians (I am Christian as well, but I just am a bit more relaxed about the definition). On it’s own I have no problem with their stricter views, but they are implementing them in ways that are severly impacting my wedding. They view the wedding planning as the realm of the parents of the bride (a direct quote is “It’s our party”). They are excluding my fiance entirely and not even listening to what I want. In addition, they’ve outright refused to accept the money my fiance’s family offered, which came with no strings attached. They think it’s their right to pay for and control my wedding. As a result, they are trying to foist their wedding onto me.
My parents did not have dinner at their wedding. They had two hours of hors doerves and then they left the reception venue on a yacht. And apparently they liked their wedding so much, that they are demanding I have the same. Now, the weird thing is that they didn’t have much (if any) say in their wedding, as my grandmother, who is sweet to me but was/is super controling of my mom, took over the entire thing.
But somehow, they seemed to love their wedding. And I can tell from their wedding pictures that they were truly happy. But I have some differing ideas from them and it is really stressing me out. I’d like dinner, and I’d like my future husband’s opinions in the process. Thankfully, I haven’t acccepted a penny yet, and my fiance and I are capable of saving to pay for it, which is looking like a nice option at this point.
My main question, I suppose, is how to tell my traditional family that this day should be about me (and my fiance) without coming off like a total brat. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.