Post # 1
I have 2 dads but both never played a huge roll in my life. ((like the one I would have liked)) my stepdad is walking me down the aisle ((he did provide a lot in life for me, I think he deserves this)) him & my mother have since divorced. So my mom thinks that she should walk me down. But its going to him. So i was thinking of makeing a speech about how much i love my mom and then ask her to dance ((a mother daughter dance and no father daughter dance))~((to the song I loved her first)) ((which it says father twice in the song, but I dont think thats a huge deal)) but im afraid that it will look odd …what are your thoughts’ has anyone done this, doing this or know anyone who has done it!?!?!?!?
Post # 3
Hmmm. I’m not too familiar with mother/ daughter dances. Would you ask your mom ahead of time or just during your speech? Maybe it depends on your mom – my mom would probably find it a bit awkward/ uncomfortable. Also, you may want to let your stepdad know you aren’t doing a father/daughter dance ahead of time. As he is walking you down the aisle, he may expect to do a father/daughter dance as well.
Maybe there are other bees out there more familiar with this…
Post # 4
i was actually thinking of having a mother daughter dance myself since my father is really religous and conservative and DOES NOT DANCE at all. but my mother LOVES to dance.
dunno how it will go over though. interested to see what folks think?
Post # 5
I think it would be totally fine and very nice, but I would make sure you talk it over with your mom first (from your post it sort of sounded like you wanted to surprise her, I’m not sure if I’m reading that right though). She may not be comfortable with it, or she may love the idea but want to practice first, but if you spring it on her at the wedding with no warning, it sort of puts her on the spot, you know? I would also keep the speech part short unless your FI is making a parallel speech about his mom. But overall I think it is a good idea.
Post # 6
your insite is just what I needed! I am going to skip the suprise and tell her soon that way if she’s uncomfortable atleast I know now lol. And thinking of no speech. I didnt relize how that would effect his mother. I should have know better so props on reminding me of that*