Mother getting Married 7 Months prior to my own Wedding

posted 3 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Busy Beekeeper

I think there is absolutely nothing to say but congratulations to your mum. What a lucky women to have found love again.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I don’t see the big deal. Why does she have to wait until your wedding to have hers?

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I think it’s fine form a completely outside view.  I can see why you’d be rather shocked and not know what to make of the situation though.

She may not have expressed how important this relationship was until she knew it would last.  I’m just guessing here.

As far as her planning a big elaborate wedding, I think most would chalk that up to her and her FI being older and having more disposable income than someone who is 25, not that it’s always the case… but as far as worrying about it, that’s my opinion.  I think it’s definitely far enough apart and everyone will have plenty of time to be happy for you both and not compare them.

Who knows, if you are close to your mother with luck you could share the exciting wedding planning stuff to some extent.

I do hope everything works out great for you both though!

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I think you should be jumping for joy for your mom! She found love again! What a wonderful thing! Be supportive! Just like you want her to be supportive, or your friends! She’s not going to steal any thunder from you, it’s seven month not a day!  You can maybe tell her “Mom, I wish you would’ve introduced us before, you know I just want you to be happy, but I’m really happy that you found love and I’m going to help you”

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

I dont see anything wrong with her getting married 7 MONTHS before you.

What I think is going on is that you are in shock like a PP said. You dont know him and didnt even know she was seriously dating someone. She also isnt having a long engagement. I would just try and get over it and be happy for her.

Post # 8
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@kelzBA:  7 months is plenty of time between two weddings in the same family. Your mother is doing nothing wrong to you. She does appear to be rushing into marriage, but that’s her business.

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

I see no reason for her to wait either. What are your reasons?

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I don’t see anything wrong with your mum getting married again 7 months before you. What a happy time for your family!

 

I think you and your brother should spend time getting to know your mum’s fiance. I understand this has all happened very quickly for you, so it’s a big shock, but this man will be family – turn it into a positive time and celebrate your mum’s new-found happiness!

 

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2017 - Bristol zoo

I do think she’s kind of rushing, and that it’s a shame that she got engaged before your brother could meet the fiance.

 

But it’s her life and if this is making her happy then you just need to try to support it ^^

In regards to the timing of the wedding, 7 months is plenty of time for two family weddings. Hope everything goes well for all of you!

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

@kelzBA:  say congrats to your mom and help her plan her big day.

 

Post # 13
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Comgrats to you both but I see no reason for her to wait. 

I don’t think it’s anyone’s place to judge if she is rushing or not. Personally, if I or divorced and had kids, I wouldn’t introduce my children to a new man unless we were engaged. I’m not one for bringing men in and out of kids lives. You guys are older now so while it would be great of you get to know him and like him, it’s less important since you won’t be living with him and he won’t really be parenting you.

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

I can see why the engagement was a shock…but I fail to see the issue with her getting married 7 months before you. It’s not like she chose your actual day. You don’t get a whole year.

Post # 15
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I can definitely see being upset by being blindsided by her engagement, but 7 months is more than enough time in between weddings.

Post # 16
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2012

The issue here is not her getting married 7 months before you.  That is plenty of time between weddings.  The issue here is her getting engaged when you didn’t even know she had a boyfriend.  Talk this out with her.

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