(Closed) Mother guilting me over sisters being bridesmaids.. What to do?

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@captianflamingo:  If you’re not close to your sisters, i would not include them. I wish i would have stood my ground when it came to deciding my wedding party, my parents took over, and what me and FI wanted to be 4 couples, turned into 9! I got over it, and am excited to have a bigger wedding party now, but there is starting to be issues with some of them with money and communication… it can really be a drag.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@captianflamingo:  Stand your ground. If you and your sister don’t get along now, a wedding will not magically bring the family close together. Tell your mother you have made your decsion and it is closed. Avoid her phone calls for a while if you have to. YOur mother is more concerned with herself because people will come to her asking why your sisters were not in the party.

Remember your maids are responsible for your shower, bach party and keeping you sane. You need women who love and care for you to have your back.

Good luck!

Post # 5
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703 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

i agree with pps.. stand your ground!

Post # 6
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672 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I agree with PP. Stand your ground and just keep explaining to your mom your reasons if she keeps harping on it. Tell her that you are extending an olive branch by including them as guests and that is all you can do right now. Good luck! Keep your chin up and keep smiling. 

Post # 7
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964 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I also say to stand your ground.  If you guys don’t speak and you don’t want them in the wedding, chances are they won’t want to be in the wedding either.

Post # 8
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1473 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I say to stand your ground but I can also see why your mother wants your sisters to be in the wedding. Even though you all do not get along, it has to bother your mother a bit. She might be hoping that if you do include them in the wedding party, that you will all get along again and it will be this huge, happy, lifetime movie moment.

I would sit her downa and talk to gently. I wouldn’t get too upset sat her, she is just trying to fix things and do what she thinks is right.

Good luck!

 

Post # 10
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43 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I agree – you will be stressed enough without having to add to it.  Stand strong.  Good luck!

Post # 11
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91 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@captianflamingo:  

It is really important that you stand your ground. Don’t budge on this. BUT, you can give the sisters a special role in the wedding.

Bridesmaids should be friends of the bride, someone you trust in, have fun with, and ultimately want to remember standing there with you.

Maybe the sisters can do a joint “welcome to the family” speech? Or you can ask them to toast your parents/mom?

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