Mother in Law Angst! What a day_LONG!!

posted 3 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
3637 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

You are being ridiculous. 


You just finished telling us that 1) This is NORMAL behaviour for your SO and 2) That his mother is a nutter 




My SO is the same way with this mother and it take him time to calm down, longer if there are outside stresses (just like all the ones you mentioned).


He wants to marry you! He wants to marry you so badly that he went to his crazy mother and told her he wants to and is saving up! 


Don’t be so silly. But if you really want to make yourself feel better, go and make him an amazing dinner and pick up some of his chores this week to try and lessen his stress a little. 


Post # 5
2052 posts
Buzzing bee

@Bettyboo1982:  UGH only you know what is going on in your relationship-Your MIL needs to butt out!!

I’ve had to deal with something similar.  My SO’s mom is kinda the say way, one day they got into an argument about religion (SO’s mom made him go to the catholic church and get pinned, but he is not very religious at all).  She made him so upset that he stormed off from her and this made her so upset she blamed ME for everything.  She told me it was because they have never got in such a big fight before and that it must be MY fault that he was so moody.  Also, because I didn’t chase after him (I choose to let him go cool down and gather his thoughts for a moment), that I didn’t love him!  All lies and stupid assumptions!

I share this story so that you will know you are not alone!!!  Mothers can be protective of their sons and make crazy accusations.  Turns out a big problem with my SO’s mom is that she was having a hard time losing her sons (one son was getting married, and my SO def told his family that I’m his future wife lol)…and she was just plain dealing with it terribly.  Wonder if the fact that he’s been asking his mom for help about this makes her feel like she’s losing her son and acting out? Just a thought.

Hang in there bee!!!! 

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