- 5 years ago
- Wedding: July 2013
Let me start by saying, I absolutely love my future mother-in-law…most of the time. She’s been great to me, and she’s helped out with paying for the wedding even though she didn’t have to. However, there is one problem I have with her. She calls my Fiance ALL the time. She’ll call him (or he’ll call her) 3 to 4 times A DAY! Maybe I’m crazy, but to me that seems a little much.
My FI’s father, his mom’s husband, passed away just a little over two years ago. Fiance lived with her up until this past July to help her out, so they’re extrememly close. However, I can’t help but wonder if they’re a little too close.
To me, talking to your mom on teh phone 3 to 4 times a day seems like a little much. It drives me crazy. I don’t mind it so much during the week, because most of the time he talks to her on him way to and from work and while he’s at work. But on the weekends, it drives me crazy. She’ll call while we’re talking, or while we’re watching a move, or while we’re out to eat, and he’ll answer! Even if he’s already talked to her a few hours earlier. And she always, without fail, calls to tell him goodnight before she goes to bed, or he calls her to tell her goodnight.
Everytime I bring it up to my Fiance, he just gets upset and tells me that she’s all alone. While she does live alone, she goes and visits her friends all the time, along with talking to her Mother-In-Law, her sisters, and her niece on the phone almost every day. I get that she just lost her husband a couple years ago, but I’m tired of sharing my Fiance with her. I feel like we don’t get any time alone because she’s always calling.
I put up with it at first, because I thought she was just adjusting to him not living with her. But it hasn’t let up at all since he moved out. We go visit her every single Sunday afternoon, too, so it’s not like she never sees us. I’d be fine with them talking every other day, but multiple times a day every day seems a bit crazy. I don’t even talk to my parents once a week, and we hardly see them, and they live closer to us than her.
Am I crazy for being irritated about this? Maybe it’s nothing, but it really annoys me. Any suggestions on how to handle the situation with my FI? I know that my Fiance promised his dad before he passed away that he would take care of his mom, but does that really involve talking to her on the phone 3 to 4 times a day? Any suggestions or advice would be appreciated!!