Post # 1
Hi Hive, I really need everyone’s advice on how to handle a sticky situation. My parents had planned on giving out cookies as our wedding favors. My fiance and I agree that this is best, as most people don’t use favors unless they are edible. Well his mother decided that cookies weren’t good enough and wants me to ask my parents what the final head count is so she can buy another favor to give out. I can’t do this, as my parents would be incredibly offended. How do I tell her that this is rude and offensive to my parents without causing a big stir? I thought about suggesting she contribute out of town bags but I don’t know how that will go over either. Ahh what should I do!
Post # 3
I think your idea of having her contribute to OOT bags is a great idea! Maybe gently explain that all of your wedding research (make light of how much you do) shows that people don’t take favors unless they are edible but her offer is so kind you can’t turn it down and would like her help in creating OOT bags.
Post # 4
I think that you should just let them know that your FIL’s want to contribute a favor also. I don’t think you need to mention that they don’t think it is enough. Just a nice gesture. I personally don’t see it as a problem, if they both want to contribute to you special day.
Post # 5
well, when i dont like one of my MIL’s suggestions, i just say…me and *FIs name* really want…..fill in blank. most of the time, she wont go against or question what her son wants and understands and moves on.