Mother In Law Has Surprise for Wedding Reception

posted 3 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

@octoberbride102013:  Why do you want to tell your FI? So he can tell her not to? 

If you already have an enterance song planned, tell her you think he’d be annoyed since you planned something else together, but then come up with another time. It’s nice that she’s trying to celebrate their heritage and you don’t want to start your marriage by pooping on your MIL’s gift. 

Post # 5
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

@octoberbride102013:  Well again, you could ask her to do it at another time. I think you’ll have to get over the him being “caught off guard” thing– that’s kind of the point of a surprise. If it were me and I was worried about his reaction I’d whisper to him right before the doors opened “By the way- your mom set up a little surprise for you right now…” or even “Heads up- your mom hired bagpipers to play right now! Look happy!” so it’s right on top of the surprise and you didn’t really ruin it. 

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@octoberbride102013:  I am probably biased, because I LOVE bagpipers, and are using them…as a surprise for our guests.  However, my FI and I planned this together, so it is different.  I feel as if you are more concerned about where she is throwing in the surprise, more than throwing your FI off guard.  Correct me if I am wrong 🙂

I think, overall, it is a cool surprise, but is it possible to throw them in as you exit the ceremony site, leaving you the opportunity to be first introduced as husband and wife the way you want?!  Maybe that would be a better compromise…

Post # 8
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688 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

She should have asked you before making arrangements for a bag pipe interuption at your wedding lol

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@octoberbride102013:  I would tell your FMIL exactly what you wrote 🙂  You love the idea, you love surprising your FI (which would actually be a PERFECT picture moment), but would prefer it at that point.  I would hope she would understand!

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

How about you find another time for them to be done, and then let it be a surprise. He might like it and if it doesn’t distract I think it’d be fine.

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