(Closed) Mother-in-law issues with Guest List

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@SoldiersAngel12:  Is she snail mailing it to you? And I would just give her a deadline and tell her if its not in then those guests don’t get STDs. Is she paying for the wedding?

Post # 4
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Bumble bee

She sounds a bit weird, most people would be thankful to have a room blocked for them (that they didn’t even have to use if they didn’t want!) I would just say “if you don’t have your guest list to us by Friday, FI and I will put one together for your side of the family and that will be it”. I think you are being very lovely by even giving her a guest list.

Post # 5
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I dealt with the same exact thing with my FMIL. One week before the deadline I gave her they decided they would email ALL potential invitees and ask if they would be able to make it. She said they only want to invite people who are 100% sure they can come. ISN’T THAT THE POINT OF THE INVITATION?? Plus we are inviting more than we want at the wedding, assuming some won’t be able to come. If I would have known they were going to get confirmation BEFORE we sent out the invitations I would have told them they could invite less people. And then she refused to send me their list until they heard from every single person they emailed about coming to the wedding. In-laws…. I’m SO over them.

Thanks for providing the opportunity for me to vent 🙂

Post # 6
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I wish I had advice on how to handle the situation. The same thing happened to me. I asked my FMIL for address in August and asked if she would have them to me by November. November came and went. She had her address book out to send out Christmas cards in December and I asked her “Since you have your address book out do you mind copying down the address for me of people you want to invite.” Didn’t get anything….Finially I get the addresses last week. I sent the save the dates out right away because they are already a month behind the ones I send out for my family. Then FMIL calls me Sunday night and asks, did you send those out yet? Because there are people on the list I don’t want you to invite.” Are you flippin’ kidding me?! Why did you put them on the list if you didn’t want them invited! Argg FMILaws!!!

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